9 Ways To Boost Your Self-Esteem Around Valentine's Day

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Even though the holiday is supposed to be about love and chocolate and cute cards, it's actually fairly common to experience low self-esteem around Valentine's Day. And it can happen whether you're single, married, or in a brand new relationship — all thanks to the pressure the day can bring.

"We receive a lot of messaging from society that, not only must we be in relationships, we must be in the perfect relationship," Allison Zamani, AMFT/APCC, from the Center for Mindful Psychotherapy, tells Bustle. We also want the day itself to be fun, and romantic, and packed with meaning. But the reality is, there's no such thing as a perfect holiday or a perfect relationship. So all you can do it be aware of your mood, and take steps to boost it whenever possible.

"If you find yourself judging yourself for being single, or feeling down because your relationship is not all that you want it to be, try to take care of yourself," Zamani says. "Reframing Valentine's Day as a day to be open to love both for yourself and for others can help turn your experience around and shift your energy."

Here are some ways to keep your self-esteem up during Valentine's Day, according to the experts.