If you find that you and your partner bicker more than you like and aren't on the same page in regards to how you show and receive love, it could be that you two know your love languages. According to marriage counselor and pastor, Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five love languages: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Receiving Gifts. Also, according to his theory which he published in his book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Matein 1995, each of us speaks only one love language, which tells us how we feel loved in relationships. It's not required that you speak the same one, but knowing yours — and your partner's — could be incredibly helpful in your relationship.
“I believe the relationship theory of love languages are very relevant to finding your perfect match, but not in the way that most people assume,” senior matchmaker and dating coach Lori Salkin tells Bustle. “People do not need to speak the same love language to succeed as a couple, rather they need to understand the love language their significant other speaks… [but] if it happens to be you speak the same love language, that is significantly easier!”
If you've realized you're in a relationship with someone whose love language is quality time, you might need some help in the gift-giving department. Here are seven ideas to get your brain churning in the right direction.