7 Subtle Ways To Create Emotional Attraction With Someone You’re Interested In

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Physical attraction is fun. It piques your interest and makes you excited about someone new for some time. But if you're looking to take things to the next level with someone you're into, experts say you may want to learn how to create emotional attraction.

"All successful romantic relationships need both emotional and physical attraction," relationship expert Emily Mendez, M.S. EdS, tells Bustle. As many of us know, physical attraction is easy. Research has found that it usually takes between 90 second to four minutes to decide that you like someone. The problem with this however, is that it's fleeting. "Physical attraction can change," Mendez says. Emotional attraction, on the other hand, endures.

According to the Gottman Institute, emotional attraction means "being attracted not just to your partner’s body, but also to their hearts, minds, and dreams." As Mendez says, "It's what keeps both partners engaged and invested in the relationship over the long haul."

When you're emotionally attracted to someone, you're more likely to invest much more of your energy into pursuing a relationship with them. "For example, when you find yourself suddenly sexually attracted to a long time friend, it's usually because the two of you developed a solid emotional connection first," Mendez says. That deeper connection makes you want to keep that person in your life in comparison to someone you just have a surface-level attraction to.

So here are some ways to create an emotional attraction with someone you're interested in, according to experts.