Sometimes sexism sounds like overt negativity toward women, but other times, it sounds more like concern or even admiration. This form of sexism, known as benevolent sexism, often comes up when you're dating. Addressing it may feel awkward, but there are ways to respond to benevolent sexism on a date without making it a hostile confrontation.
Benevolent sexism can take several different forms. One of them is chivalry — men opening doors, always paying, and taking care of other tasks for women. These behaviors aren't harmful in of themselves; un fact, they can be a good sign if they're simply done with the goal of being nice. But they can also stem from sexist beliefs, like that it's men's "job" to "take care of" women and that women are incapable of everyday tasks themselves. Women who date men may be a target of this form of benevolent sexism disproportionately.
You may also notice benevolent sexism in statements about men and women, like "women are more caring" and "men are total jerks." These might seem like compliments, but they perpetuate gender stereotypes and hold people to expectations they may or may not meet. People of all different genders and sexual orientations express these beliefs.
If you notice any of these behaviors in your date, here are some ways you can respond without causing tension or betraying your values.