9 Common Myths About Sex We Need To Stop Believing, According To A Former Dominatrix

After two years as a dominatrix in New York City, Amy Boyajian, Founder and CEO of Wild Flower, an online sexual wellness boutique and lifestyle site, had had enough. In those two years, her eyes were opened to not just the negative stereotypes that surround the adult industry, but just how clueless people are when it comes to sex. Yes, human sexuality is extremely complicated and nothing is simply black or white, but as sexual beings it's our obligation to at least try to understand it on some level. As Boyajian discovered, that understanding and knowledge was rarely found. "I saw how uneducated and misinformed people were about sex," Boyajian tells Bustle. "I saw an industry that perpetuates stereotypes and misinformation."

In a society where the subject of sex is still taboo and sex education is hard to come by, having witnessed it first hand in the adult industry, Boyajian knew she wanted to be part of changing that. "I knew I had to try and do something to change the way people were thinking about sex and sexuality," she says. "While I could explain [sex positive thinking] to clients in conversation, I felt like I needed to share this important information on a grander scale. That’s why I created Wild Flower!"

Wild Flower isn't just a place to find sex toys, but a site that's fighting to normalize sex through education. I spoke to Boyajian about what she learned from her years as a dom and the most harmful misconceptions about sex she came across in her work.