You’re dating and met someone you really like… however, then you realize your idea of a fun date is different than theirs. Perhaps you’re an extrovert and they’re an introvert, or vice-versa. Many such couples have successful relationships, but it’s all about understanding what each person wants and needs. And, in actuality, there are several date ideas that’ll make both introverts and extroverts happy.
Adam C. Earnheardt, Ph.D., chair and professor of the Department of Communication at Youngstown State University is an extrovert and has been with his introvert wife for more than 20 years. “I really think these kinds of pairings are best suited for long-term relationship success,” he tells Bustle. “Keeping lines of communication open is important, which is something that may be a little difficult for new couples, but all it takes a lot of good conversation and negotiation.”
When it comes to where to go on dates, Susan Golicic, Ph.D., certified relationship coach and co-founder of Uninhibited Wellness, says compromising is key. “Where to go really requires a conversation between the two of you as to what places fuel you both (beyond the more group setting for extroverts and quiet setting for introverts),” she tells Bustle. “For instance, you can go to a quiet dinner first, then somewhere more extrovert-friendly. That way, you’ll both get what you need.”
Extrovert Or Introvert?
Of course, only you know what date venues make you the happiest, and some will be better suited to your personality than others. If you’re not sure if you’re more an extrovert or an introvert, you can always take the Meyers-Briggs test so you can figure out your personality type, and you can even do the test online.
Without further ado, here are nine date ideas that are perfect for introvert-extrovert couples, according to relationship experts.