How To Date An Extrovert When You’re An Introvert, According To Experts

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They say opposites attract, and this is especially true when it comes to dating someone whose personality type is opposite yours. For instance, if you’re dating an extrovert, they may prefer to be as social as possible at a party while you prefer less social gatherings. However, that doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. Instead, it’s good to know how to date an extrovert so you can be prepared for any potential relationship issues that come up.

Adam C. Earnheardt, Ph.D., Chair and Professor of the Department of Communication at Youngstown State University, is an extrovert and has been with his introvert wife for more than 20 years. “All relationships are about finding balance, and this includes finding balance in new-ish relationships, when we’re trying to figure out the other person’s personality type,” he tells Bustle. “Ultimately, as an introvert-extrovert couple, you’re trying to find the happy place between introversion and extroversion, and you can only do this through open lines of communication, and through trial and error.”

Dr. Earnheardt says that it’s important to recognize your personality differences, and the nuances that come along with them. “It means that despite those differences, you really like each other and want to make it work,” he says. Of course, if you’re not sure if you’re more of an introvert or extrovert, you can always take the Meyers-Briggs test so you can figure out your personality type. You can either do so with a professional, like a therapist, or do the test online.

If you’re an introvert and find yourself dating or in a relationship with an extrovert, here are 13 ways to make it work.