9 Signs You’re Trying Too Hard To Make A Relationship Work

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Every relationship requires work, but all that effort and energy should churn out a relationship that's also filled with comfort and joy. If you've found your relationship is filled with more struggles than pleasures, then you may want to watch out for some signs that you're trying too hard to make a relationship work. It's tempting to try to hold on to a relationship that once brought you happiness, but if it's not working no matter how hard you attempt to fix it, then it might be the time to finally move on.

"Relationships do take work, and there is occasionally conflict," couples therapist Jim Seibold, PhD LMFT, tells Bustle. "However, if you have to try too hard to make the relationship work, it may not be right for you. Ultimately, if you are not compatible, the relationship will crumble. Instead of trying to make a square peg fit into a round hole, look for a better fit. It may be painful to end a relationship and you may feel overwhelmed at the possibility of having to start over. However, the longer a bad relationship goes on the more pain you will experience."

There's nothing wrong with trying to solve your issues, but you don't want to lose yourself in the process. Here are nine signs that you're trying too hard to make a relationship work.