11 Hacks For Manifesting The Partner You Want

It’s surprisingly easy.

by Kristine Fellizar
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Trying to learn how to manifest love? Experts say it starts with you.
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It’s hard to imagine finding the right person when every relationship you thought would go somewhere ended up in heartbreak. Finding the kind of love you want can be a struggle, and it can even leave you wondering whether a lasting relationship is in the cards for you. But according to psychics and spiritual experts, one way to get what you want is to learn how to manifest love.

The concept of manifestation is something you might have heard of in relation to the Law of Attraction. If you focus on something you want, surround it with positive energy, and truly believe it will happen, it will come into your life when it’s supposed to. This can be done for anything, including love. It just may require a bit of self-work first.

“If you want a relationship founded on unconditional love, by energetic law, the universe can only send you the person who is an energetic match to your energy,” Lupe LaPuente, energy mentor and spiritual channel, tells Bustle. “Start focusing on being the energetic vibration of the relationship it is that you seek. Want love? Be love. This way, you won't have to worry about who's on the other side of your past, present, or future because you're committing to the energetic vibration you want. By the law of energy, the other person will have to energetically match you.”

But what if you know that you still have some work to do on yourself? The good thing is, you don’t have to wait for a certain time to start manifesting someone. In fact, you can do it right now. Here are some simple things you can do each day to manifest your ideal partner or relationship, according to experts.


Be Constantly Aware Of Opportunities

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If you want the universe to work in your favor, you also need to do your part. Manifesting the love you want really depends on how open you are to receiving it. Be aware of potential opportunities to meet someone special, and step outside of your comfort zone from time to time. For instance, if your friends keep asking you to go out with them on a Friday night but you keep turning them down, you're limiting your opportunities.

“Without action and putting yourself out there, and without moving towards what you desire, nothing will happen, it’s just wishing,” Stina Garbis, professional psychic and @psychicstina on TikTok, tells Bustle. “But, if you follow up your manifestations with a dating profile and increased social interactions, then things will go more easily and swiftly.”


Keep Away From The Negativity Trap

There are some really straightforward and pain-free ways to incorporate manifestation into your everyday routine, like being happy for others and staying positive. It’s so easy to get discouraged about love when everyone else around you is in a happy relationship. But don’t get dragged into a dark hole of negative thinking. That’s the type of thing that can push the right partner further away or attract the wrong person.

“Keep your heart wide open and know that your twin flame is going through something in order for them to get to you,” Erika Gabriel, spiritual medium, tells Bustle. “They will find you and you will find them.”


Spend 10 To 20 Minutes A Day Getting To Know Yourself

Want to attract a healthy, positive, and long-lasting relationship? Amanda Dobra Hope, holistic life coach and pre-marital counselor, tells Bustle it starts with you. "Though this may seem counterintuitive, my advice toward manifesting your ideal relationship is to spend plenty of time really getting to know yourself first," Amanda Dobra Hope, holistic life coach and pre-marital counselor, tells Bustle.

You can do that by writing in a journal, meditating, or standing in front of a mirror and asking yourself questions about how you feel and how your day is going.


Be Clear About What You Really Want In A Partner

If you want the universe to deliver your ideal partner, Pam Thomas, Chief Change Officer and intuitive at What’s Within U, tells Bustle you need to be really clear and specific on what kind of person you wish to attract. "It’s like going into a restaurant and placing an order," she says. "If you say to the waiter, 'I’ll have a meat dish with a side of vegetables,' you're leaving yourself wide open to being served cow tongue with a side of creamed spinach." Unless you're into that sort of thing, you probably won't be happy with what you get. Ask yourself what your ideal partner and relationship really looks like to you.

On the other hand, trying to manifest a specific person can be extremely challenging due to a number of factors outside of your control. Instead, it's better to ask for specific traits or qualities that you like about the other person, as it opens you up to more opportunities.


Wear Something That Makes You Feel Powerful

If you're ready to meet the love of your life, wear that one thing that makes you feel confident. It can wear a shirt in that special color that makes your feel good, or a symbol that has a special meaning to you. "When you wear those earrings, or shoes, or belt, or scarf, you're telling yourself and the universe you're ready, available and open to meeting your partner," Jess Bubbico, manifesting expert and mentor for Heart Centered Entrepreneurs, tells Bustle. Then, keep your mind open and ready to receive.

"Many times, opportunities to meet a good person present themselves, but don't look the way we think they should," she says. "Be present to what you manifested and open to what it will look like when it arrives."


Do More Things That Create Positive Vibes

Your ideal partner isn't going to come any faster if you're just sitting around, waiting for them to show up. In fact, as Rachel Christie, Law of Attraction life coach and reiki master, tells Bustle, "When we are vibrating in a space of needing someone or something, this lack energy actually pushes away what we desire." But if you want the universe to be on your side, it's all about trust and allowing it to work its magic.

One way to do that is to keep moving forward. Keep doing things that make you feel fulfilled and happy. "Do things that help you create a positive vibe while you're waiting for that ideal person to be delivered," Thomas says. "Whatever creates that positive vibe and energy is going to be essential in attracting an ideal mate."


Give Thanks For All The Love You Already Have In Your Life

You've probably heard how gratitude can help you feel more positive about your life. So it shouldn't come as a surprise that being being grateful and giving thanks can help attract your ideal partner to you. "Give thanks for all of the little signs that your ideal partner is getting closer and closer," Christie says. "Gratitude is one of the highest vibrating emotions we can connect to. When we feel gratitude for all that we do have already in our lives, our desires can flow to us much faster." Spending a few minutes each day writing in a gratitude journal is one really easy way to keep you on track.


Remember That There's No Such Thing As Rejection

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This may sound ridiculous, especially for anyone who's been hurt by rejection before. But think of it more as a change in mindset. "Rejection is just the universe’s way of protecting you from someone who is not a right fit, so that you have room for someone who is," Thomas says. Besides, when you no longer fear rejection, you're more likely to go after what you really want.


Listen To Music While You’re Manifesting

Listening to music while you think about the relationship you want is one of the best ways to manifest love. According to Amanda Brethauer, spirituality expert and founder of The Peculiar Brunette, music can instantly shift your energy and bring you into a more positive and focused state, which is an essential part of manifesting. “Music flows into our souls and channels higher levels of vibrations creating powerful manifestation energy,” Brethauer says. “I often utilize this effective technique, and what I love most is when the song gets stuck in my head. This is incredibly powerful because it keeps the intentional energy moving and connecting with the universe as you go about your daily life.”

Brethauer suggests listening to manifestation music as part of your morning routine, and recommends the songs, “Being of Love” by Beautiful Chorus and “Sync Into You” by Geminelle, for manifesting love.


Have A Rich Imagination

When it comes to manifestation advice, one thing you might hear quite often is to, “act as if.” This basically means that you should act as if you already have the thing you’re trying to manifest. For instance, if you’re trying to manifest a relationship, live your life as if you’re already in one. According to Garbis, it’s important to align yourself with the life you want by raising your vibrations to match that ideal life.

“My manifestation trick for this is to have a rich imagination,” Garbis says. “It may sound a little crazy, but enjoy your time with this fantasy person: eat meals with them, drive in your car with them, share a book, share your bed, say goodnight. Imagine they’re in your life making you laugh, and making you feel good.


Get Rid Of Your Timeline

Giving yourself a timeframe for when you should find love is only going to make you anxious. If you are trying to manifest the right person for you, remember that love happens when it’s supposed to. Sometimes the universe will introduce you to the love of your life after a week of manifesting, and sometimes it may take years. Just because it’s taking longer than you’d like, it doesn’t mean that it won’t ever happen. According to Michelle Brock, spiritual advisor and past life regressionist for The SoulUnity, there is a such thing as divine timing.

“I have seen ‘right person, wrong time’ many times in my coaching practice. Or, two people who meet and get together later, when the timing in their lives is better aligned for them to have a successful long-term relationship,” Brock says. “Trust that the universe has a bigger picture view in mind for you, only you can’t see it from where you are sitting. Two people who are meant to meet, will meet. It is only a matter of time.”


Lupe LaPuente, energy mentor and spiritual channel

Amanda Dobra Hope, holistic life coach and pre-marital counselor

Pam Thomas, Chief Change Officer and intuitive at What’s Within U

Jess Bubbico, manifesting expert and mentor for Heart Centered Entrepreneurs

Rachel Christie, Law of Attraction life coach and reiki master

Amanda Brethauer, spirituality expert and founder of The Peculiar Brunette

Stina Garbis, professional psychic and @psychicstina on TikTok

Michelle Brock, spiritual advisor and past life regressionist for The SoulUnity

Erika Gabriel, spiritual medium

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