These Are The 3 Most Compatible Myers-Briggs Types For You

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You've read the love horoscopes. You've taken the relationship quizzes. You’ve tried to figure out if you’re more compatible with an extrovert or an introvert. With in-your-face couples like MGK and Megan Fox and Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker pushing the existence of soulmates, you might start to want to find your other half. Andrea Donnelly, celestial mentor and energy healer, previously told Bustle, "I think of a soulmate as someone who compliments us, whereas a twin flame is someone who has a deep level of similarity to us.”

Short of that cosmic connection, however, perhaps the best way to find the one for you is looking at your most compatible Myers-Briggs personality types to see who you'd mesh with best, based on a confusing mix of letters. For those who are newbies to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test, otherwise known as MBTI compatibility, it's basically a personality assessment that breaks down 16 unique personality types. Once you take the test, you'll end up with four letters — like INFP (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Prospecting) or ESTJ ( Extraverted, Observant, Thinking, and Judging) — which essentially provide insight into who you are, what your goals are, and how you interact with others.

When it comes to dating, knowing someone's MBTI might just help you "understand where that person is coming from, and what their preferences are," Jan Tanaka, a certified MBTI practitioner, tells Bustle. Or, at the very least, it can help "spark a discussion" about introversion and extroversion. While compatibility isn’t everything (some of the best couples are total opposites) it could be a great starting place.

Whether you’re trying to find your twin flame or just have a bit of fun, it's always enjoyable to compare results — or post them in your dating profile. But keep in mind "the Myers-Briggs is just an instrument to give people more information on someone’s innate preferences," Poppy and Geoff Spencer, LCPC, Myers-Briggs certified coaches, tell Bustle. "So, while not set in stone, knowing your own and someone else’s preferences is a huge plus when dating, especially when meeting first online."

If that sounds helpful, look below for your Myers-Briggs type, and see which other three types are your best match.


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ESFP? ESFJ, ESTP, ISFP

ESFP (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving) folks, aka the Entertainer, should keep an eye out for those who are either ESFJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging), ESTP (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving), or ISFP (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving).

Regarding the ISFP match up, Jessica Moore, a licensed dynamic emotional integration (DEI) specialist tells Bustle, "Sure, they might have disagreements about how often to socialize with friends, but as long as they enjoy spending time together, the introvert/extrovert difference won't matter much. And in every other way, they'll be on the same page, and will very easily 'get' each other."

In fact, if someone seems like your opposite, that can actually be a good thing. "The upside to all of the types is that they are not set in stone; they are preferences," the Spencers say. "We can learn and grow in our relationships by our willingness to further develop our own inferior and less dominant traits."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ESTP? ESTJ, ESFP, INFJ

According to Tanaka, an ESTP (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving) type, aka the Entrepreneur, will be super compatible with both ESTJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) and ESFP (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving), which makes sense due to having so many similarities. But they'll also match up well with one type that doesn't seem as likely: INFJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging).

"You may believe that since none of the letters match, you should eliminate this person as a dating candidate. And yet, this pairing is highly sensitive to one another," the Spencers say. "With the tertiary functions of a 'T' Thinker and an 'F' Feeler, effective communication is often positive and successful."

Why is that, you might ask? "The 'T' taps into [their] Feeling mode to understand where their partner is coming from."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ESTJ? ESTP, ESFJ, ISTJ

Folks who are ESTJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging), aka the Executive, are the most compatible with ESTP (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) and ESFJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) types, according to Tanaka. But they can also find a healthy relationship with an ISTJ (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) type.

According to, ESTJs are active organizers, logical, assertive, analytical, and practical. And as such, when it comes to dating, they tend to appreciate a partner who can keep up, like an ESTP.

Another interesting thing to keep in mind, when comparing your results to someone else's, is how strong the results were. If you're ESTJ, were you very Sensing, or just a little bit? Were you incredibly Thinking, or did your results fall in more neutral territory?

"In my view, the S/N, T/F, and P/J differences aren't a big deal for compatibility if the two people are close to the middle, but they will absolutely create compatibility issues if the two people are at the far ends of the spectrum," Moore says. "All of the personality indicators play a huge role in shared interests, but the E/I difference is less of an issue because it is the most easily managed in a relationship."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ESFJ? ISTP, ESTJ, ESTP

ESFJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging), aka the Consul, is best matched with ISTP types (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving), ESTJ types (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, and Judging), and ESTP types (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving).

ESFJs tend to relate best to other extroverts. And yet (are you sensing a theme?) it doesn't mean you should rule out certain types of introverts. In fact, there may be some types that'd really click with you.

As Caleb Backe, a health and wellness expert at Maple Holistics, tells Bustle, an introvert who possesses the Perceiving (P) trait will be more than happy to get out of their proverbial shell and try something new with you. So don't rule them out as your travel buddy.


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ISTJ? INFJ, ISTP, ISFJ

An ISTJ (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) type, aka the Logistician, should be on the lookout for an INFJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging) as "both are results and action-oriented," the Spencers say. "ISTJs are systematic in their thinking process," and will probably have a detailed checklist of what they're looking for in a partner.

While that level of planning might scare off other types, an INFJ will be all about it. Their approach to dating is equally logistical, the Spencers say, and goal-oriented.

But Tanaka says ISTJs should also be on the look out for ISTP (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving) and ISFJ (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) types, too. They'd get along equally well.


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ISTP? ISFP, INFP, ESFP

ISTP (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking Perceiving), aka the Virtuoso, will want someone who's on the same level as them.

"Although individuals possessing the Perceiving (P) trait may act more impulsively at times than those with the Judging (J) trait, two Perceivers usually get along wonderfully," Backe says. "They share an adventurous streak, and nobody will hold them back from trying something new."

These three types also all have Feeling in common, which helps to balance out the Thinking ISTP.


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ISFJ? ESFJ, ISFP, ISTJ

ISFJ (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) types, also known as "Defenders," tend to be "deeply committed to kindness and giving in relationships," Christie Tcharkhoutian, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. And that might explain why you're always happiest with partners who put in the same amount of effort.

"Good matches for ISFJs are those that share common roots in Sensing and being attuned to what they can see rather than abstract ideas," she says. "They put more weight on their own personal experience and facts rather than intentions. In this way, good matches for them would be partners who can challenge some of their flexibility around the future and pairing with someone Extroverted may help them open up to different interactions with a wide variety of people. [This] can help them with their difficulty in conflictual situations."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ISFP? ESFP, ISFJ, ESFJ

An ISFP (Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving), aka the Adventurer, would "enjoy sharing in mutual activities with a partner," Tcharkhoutian says. But they're also someone who likes to keep a tight lid on their emotions, and as a result, might want a partner who prefers doing the same.

The second letter describes how you process your surroundings. For an ISFP, "it would be exhausting to match with an 'N' personality type who always wants to connect around Intuition and the "abstract," rather than Sensing the experiences of the here and now," Tcharkhoutian says.

While ISFPs are introverts, they actually match well with these types due to their inherent, extroverted sense of adventure. "And matching with the J traits may also help them to grow in planting a solid foundation from which they can also branch out and explore."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ENTJ? INTJ, ENTP, ENFJ

ENTJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging), aka the Commander, pairs well with INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging), most of all. "This is a compatible dating match," the Spencers say. "The core or 'heart' of this type is the 'NT,'" which means they have strong intuition and thinking preferences.

"The 'NT' core is exciting and stimulating for this pairing. Discussions, especially deep-level ones, are like foreplay for this combination," they say. "And the bonus is these relationships are relatively drama-free. Trust and reliability are equally embraced with this couple."

And according to Tanaka, ENTJ is also highly compatible with ENTP (Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) and ENFJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging). Again, it's all thanks to that extroversion, as well as an ability to connect intuitively.


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ENTP? ENTJ, ENFP, ENFJ

ENTPs (Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving), aka Debaters, are most compatible with ENTJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) and ENFP (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving) folks, according to Tanaka. But they also can pair well with other extroverted types, like ENFJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging).

As noted on, ENTPs are energetic, inventive, and enthusiastic individuals. And if you apply those traits to relationships, it makes sense why ENTJ, ENFP, and ENFJ would complement them well, as they'd have a lot in common.

Remember, though, that sometimes an Introverted personality may help balance out more Extroverted, gregarious types, so don't eliminate all the homebody prospects that come your way, as you might actually benefit from what they have to offer.


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ENFJ: ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP

ENFJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging), aka the Protagonist, is one type that does well with someone just like themselves.

"Two ENFJs are great," the Spencers say. "They both like social gatherings, usually enjoy a wide network of people, are easy communicators, enjoy planning activities and adventures for the future, and ENFJ’s value organization and harmony in life. Often sensitive and warm-hearted people-pleasers, they are eager to reach a resolution to misunderstandings and conflict. ENFJ’s place a high value on relationships because they authentically care about people. If you’re an ENFJ, your dating life with another ENFJ will be a blast."

But INFJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging) and ENFP (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging) types can make great matches, too.

"An ENFJ is a nurturing, intuitive 'giver' who truly values connection," Tcharkhoutian says. "They would match with either an introvert or an extrovert because they appreciate social interaction and would enjoy someone who also appreciates social interaction. Additionally, having an introverted partner would be a good opportunity for an ENFJ to peel back the layers of personality and get to connect on a deeper layer, which can be a challenging and rewarding experience for the nurturing ENFJ."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are ENFP: ENTJ, INTJ, INTP

For the Campaigner, aka ENFP, (Extroverted, Intuitive Feeling, Perceiving), ENTJ (Extroverted, Intuition, Thinking, Judging), INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging), and INTP (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving) pair best. And there's a pretty good reason why. "ENFPs are constant sources of inspiration, but might not necessarily have the drive to follow through," Eric Gee, of, tells Bustle. "ENTJs, while not exactly fountains of creative energy, have great ambition (think Hermione Granger) and the force of will to take the ENFP's ideas ... and make them happen." When together, these two can move mountains.

INTJ is another great pairing. "Not as forceful as an ENTJ, but just as organized, INTJs will plan the hell out of all the ENFPs crazy, off-the-cuff inspirations," Gee says. "As partners, the two types would teach each other many things: INTJs would learn that you can't always foresee every possible outcome in life, which is what makes being human so fun. ENFPs would learn that you are not always great at everything and that caution and planning often lead to better results than unbridled spirit."

INTP may also make a great partner since they too can balance out an ENFP. "If ENFPs have great vision, INTPs have great distance. Their emotional objectivity helps calm and give clarity to the often hyper-sensitive ENFPs," says Gee. "The more pragmatic 'NTs' give ENFPs focus in action. INTPs give them confidence in their ideas."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are INTJ? INTP, INFJ, INFP

INTJs (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging), aka Architects, need someone who can either embrace their introverted side or help balance it out. And that's why, according to Tanaka, INTPs (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving) and INFJs (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging) are compatible with this type.

To figure what you need, Tanaka suggests asking yourself a few questions. "As a partner, do you want to be with someone who gains energy in the same way? Someone who processes internally?" Or would you be OK with a partner who gains energy by being social, and might help you do the same?

If communicating is more important to you, you might feel happiest with an INFP (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling Perceiving), "as both excel at being proficient communicators," the Spencers say. "They both share a love of discussion; they both share appreciation for their internal musings and ideas. Their 'N’S' are well-aligned and they get one another."


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are INTP? ENTP, INFP, ENFP

INTP (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving) — the Logician — is most compatible with ENTP (Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving), INFP (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving), and ENFP (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving), according to Moore.

"In my experience, differences in extroversion/introversion (E/I) are not deal-breakers, because being different in that way doesn't make you less compatible when you are together (just how often you would each prefer to go to parties)," she says. "And differences in Thinking/Feeling (T/F) can often be complementary, as Thinking people often appreciate more Feeling in their personal relationships, and Feeling people often appreciate a steady logical presence in a partner."

So if a busy social life isn't the main focus in your relationship, you may be able to happily connect in other ways.


What Personality Type Are You Compatible With If You Are INFJ: ISTJ, INFP, INTJ

As the Spencers mentioned above, someone who is an INFJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging), aka the Advocate, will match up well with someone who's ISTJ (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging), since both folks are "results and action-oriented."

They're all about making checklists and thinking things through, and that often means they take a very measured approach to dating — as well as to life in general. It's also why they might not get along well with someone who has opposite or conflicting qualities, as these strong traits will just cause them to butt heads.

According to Tanaka, INFJs should also lookout for people who are INFP (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving) or INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, and Judging), due to having several core qualities in common.



INFP types are "Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Perceiving," and they’re known as the Mediators.

According to the Spencers, the most compatible dating partners for an INFP would be INFJs (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging), ISFJs (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging), and ENFJs (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging). "Notice the 'F' (Feeling) is common in all three and none of the three have a 'P' (Perceiving) for their last letter preference," they say.

That's because two Perceiving types don't always mix well. "We smile when we say that having 'two Ps in a pod' is not a good thing. Two Ps can never make decisions: where to go out on a date, what restaurant to pick, what to order, what time, etc.," the Spencers say. This can get annoying fast since you'll struggle with dating momentum.

INFPs also get along well with Judging types, as long as that person has strong Feeling characteristics to make up for it. "The J cannot have a very clear strong preference, because they will most likely become frustrated with their P's lack of decision-making," they say. But "if the J has a strong F, that will usually override their annoyance."

Additional reporting by Marianne Eloise


Jan Tanaka, certified MBTI practitioner

Poppy and Geoff Spencer, LCPC, Myers-Briggs certified coaches

Jessica Moore, licensed dynamic emotional integration (DEI) specialist

Caleb Backe, health and wellness expert

Christie Tcharkhoutian, LMFT, licensed marriage and family therapist

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