Shaking up your sex life isn't a one-time thing. But it can be really hard to get the ball rolling if you're unsatisfied in bed and don't know why, or what to do about it. Luckily, sometimes an honest check-in with yourself can be a really big step on the road to some really great sex.
"There is absolutely a taboo around admitting you want a change in your sex life," health and wellness coach Caleb Backe tells Bustle. "This is because society has helped to perpetuate the myth that sexual frustration is something to be ashamed of. ... This could not be further from the truth." Being proactive, it turns out, is super sexy.
It can be hard to tell, though, whether you need a change. Satisfaction is a completely subjective pursuit, and our libido levels change for various reasons throughout our lives. That's why it's important to check in with yourself, and your partner, consistently. "In any long-term relationship, I feel a shake up or being proactive is an on going process," Dr. Dawn Michael, Certified Clinical Sexologist & Sexuality Counselor, tells Bustle. "When I counsel couples about improving their sex lives, I explain to them that changing things up and checking in with each other often can help with sexual boredom." And who wants to be bored doing one of the most fun things possible?
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