If You Do These 10 Things, You're Not Sticking Up Enough For Yourself In Your Relationship

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In order to have a healthy relationship, it's important to make sure that no partner is being treated unfairly. And step one in that process is doing what you can to keep things fair and balanced. "If both partners think of their relationship in terms of giving and receiving, this can help create some balance for both of them," Heidi McBain, MA, LMFT, LPC, RPT, a professional counselor, tells Bustle.

And step two definitely involves creating healthy boundaries. "Boundaries of any kind should be established early in the relationship and maintained throughout," Dr. Tracey M. Phillips, PhD, LMSW tells Bustle. "For example, if your partner tells a 'little white lie' in the beginning, the other person needs to address it and let them know that this is unacceptable behavior, as well as the consequences if the behavior does not change." In doing so, you'll be nipping unhealthy habits in the bud, before they get out of hand.

If a toxic situation does end up happening, regardless of your attempts to keep things positive, it's certainly not your fault. If someone is going to be a toxic partner, they'll be that way regardless of what you do or say — and it's not up to you to fix them. But, if manageable problems arise, it's good to address any crossing of your boundaries head on, and never settle for less than you deserve. Here are a few signs you need to stick up for yourself more in your relationship, and make sure you're treated fairly, according to experts.