We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Now, onto today’s topic: the best sex positions for G-spot orgasm.
Q: I’ve been experimenting with G-spot stimulation with my boyfriend. He can find it with his fingers right away. I haven’t had an orgasm from it yet, but it feels great when he strokes it. I’d like to find ways to hit the G-spot when we’re having sex, but it feels like we can’t find it when it’s his penis inside of me instead of his fingers.
A; Thanks for reaching out and submitting a question! It can certainly be trick to find the G-spot during sex, especially since the penis is far less dexterous than the fingers.
First, a quick primer for those of you who haven’t yet experienced the joys of G-spot play: The G-spot is located on the anterior (the side under your belly button) wall of the vagina, about two inches in. It responds best to firm, consistent pressure. There’s a lot of conflicting research about the G-spot, but there’s no denying that stimulating it feels good for a lot of women. Here are the six best positions for trying to hit it.
An important note: While I'm going to use male pronouns throughout this to answer the question, all of these positions are totally girl-on-girl friendly for use with a strap-on or fingers.
1. Doggy Style
How to do it: Get on your hands and knees, and have your partner enter you from behind while they kneel.
Why it works: Doggy style is arguably the best position for hitting the G-spot. Your partner’s penis is naturally tilted slightly downwards due to the alignment of your bodies, and it rubs right up against the G-spot as a result. Even if you’re not a big G-spot fan, there’s no arguing that this position feels incredible.
Variations to try: There are so many fun ways to play around with doggy style! Depending on how your heights match up, you can put some pillows under your knees. You can spread your legs further apart, or pull them closer together. Or you can kneel on the bed and have your partner stand behind you.
You can also adjust the positioning of your arms to change the angle of penetration. You can place them closer or further from your legs, or can try getting down onto your forearms instead.
You can also experiment with the depth of thrusting. Since the G-spot is pretty close to the entrance of the vagina, shallow thrusting can be immensely pleasurable. If your partner gets close to orgasm before you do, he can pull out and rub your G-spot with his fingers in the same position.
2. Legs Up
How to do it: Get into missionary position. Have your partner sit up so that he’s crouching on his knees. Lift your legs up one at a time and rest your ankles on his shoulders.
Why it works: This position creates really deep, powerful penetration. Having your body bent over backwards makes it easier for him to hit your G-spot.
Variations to try: If you’re not super flexible, you can try wrapping your legs around his waist instead of going all the way up to his shoulders. Or you can have one leg on his shoulder and resting your other foot flat on the bed. He can also experiment with sitting more upright versus leaning forward and bending you over even more.
3. Woman On Top
How to do it: Have your guy lean back against the headboard, propped up with some pillows behind his back so that his body is at a 45 degree angle. Straddle him, with one leg on either end of his hips, and lower down onto him.
Why it works: Being on top gives you control over the stimulation, and allows you to find the angle that works best for your G-spot. When he’s sitting up a bit, his penis is pushed back towards his body, which helps it rub up against the anterior wall of your vagina.
Variations to try: This position is all about finding the angle that works for your bodies. Have him experiment with sitting up or leaning back more. You can also try tilting back a bit, which will create more friction against your G-spot (just be careful not to lean too far, or you’ll risk bending his penis!).
You can also experiment with the kind of penetration that you like best. Try grinding against him, rocking your hips back and forth slowly. Then try pulling your body straight up and down vertically. Next, try rising up on your knees and lowering yourself so that only the first few inches of his penis enter you.
How to do it: Have both of you lie on your sides, facing the same direction. Initial penetration can be a little tricky in this position, so you may need to raise your leg, change the angle of your bodies, or do some wriggling around. Lube helps too!
Why it works: When your guy is behind you, his penis is able to rub right up against your G-spot. This is a less intense position, and can allow the two of you to feel close and connected, as well as take your time getting the angle just right.
Variations to try: You can try bending at the waist so that you’re tilted slightly away from him. You can also try pulling your legs further apart or closer together. You can even entwine your legs with his to give you more leverage and a tighter fit.
5. X Marks The Spot
How to do it: First, find a bed or table that is about at hip height for your guy. Hop up onto the surface and lower down onto your back, with your legs draping over the edge. Have him stand in between your legs, then lift your legs into the air and cross them over each other so that they make an X. You can balance your ankles on his shoulders, or he can hold your legs against his body.
Why it works: Crossing your legs creates a very tight fit that is sure to please! Being flat on your back also allows the natural upward curvature of an erection to stroke right against your G-spot.
Variations to try: You can try resting your feet flat against his chest, or wrapping your legs around his waist.
He can change the angle of penetration by putting something under your butt, pulling your legs up further, or squatting down a little so that he thrusts up into you. He can also experiment with deep thrusting versus shallow thrusting.
6. The Modified Doggy Style
How to do it: Start off in doggy style, and have him enter you from behind. Slowly lower yourself until you’re flat on your stomach. He should follow along with you, staying inside you the whole time.
Why it works: This position hits all the right angles! There’s a great feeling of being totally enveloped.
Variations to try: He can change the angle by resting on his forearms or sitting up a bit on his knees. You can try spreading your legs further apart or bringing them closer together.
You can also try placing a pillow under your hips to create more of a downward-thrusting motion for him.
As you experiment with each of these positions, try to remember to have fun! It’s easy to get caught up in your quest to locate the G-spot, but you’ll enjoy yourself a lot more if you keep your focus on what feels good for your bodies.
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