Why Do We Get Over Crushes? 13 People On What Made Their Feelings For Someone Totally Disappear
If there's one thing middle school taught us all, it's that having an unrequited crush is the worst. When you have a ~thing~ for someone who may or may not like you back (or know you exist, for that matter), it's like being on an emotional rollercoaster: one minute you're flying high, and the next you're down in the dumps. It's an exhausting cycle, and unfortunately, figuring out how to get over a crush can seem almost impossible.
The good and bad news? Our crushes aren't always as perfect as we build them up to be in our daydreams. Unless you know your crush super well, there's always the chance that they just aren't right for you — everyone has relationship dealbreakers, after all — and one day you might have a moment of clarity and watch your crush magically fade away. In a recent AskReddit thread, one user asked people to share the eye-opening moments that instantly killed their crushes, and their stories are proof that no matter how swoon-worthy someone might seem, if their personality is secretly ugly, they simply aren't worth your time.
You probably already know your own dealbreakers, but if you're curious about what other people consider super unattractive behavior in a potential partner, here are 13 examples of behavior that caused people's biggest crushes to get crushed.
1. Getting Upset Over Something Silly
If someone pouts because you don't order what they suggested from a restaurant's menu, that's a red flag that they're immature and disrespectful: there's no reason to be upset by something so trivial.
2. Constantly Insulting Others
It doesn't matter how cute someone is on the outside: it's pretty hard to have a crush on someone who does nothing but toss insults at you in an attempt to bring your self-esteem down.
3. Phone Snubbing
There's nothing more irritating than being on a date with someone who can't put their phone down for more than a minute or two — and there's no way a crush can last if they won't even look you in the eye.
4. Treating Disabled People Poorly
If your feelings for someone don't immediately disappear after an incident like this, the two of you deserve each other.
5. Learning They're Off The Market
Nothing kills a crush faster than realizing they're about to be wed to someone else.
6. Having *Interesting* Grooming Habits
Waxing or shaving works just as well as, if not better than, burning your arm hairs off.
7. Refusing To Admit They're Wrong
In order to have a healthy relationship, it's important to be able to admit when you're wrong and own up to your mistakes. If someone *always* has to be right, that's a red flag that they're emotionally immature.
8. Acting Dumber Around Certain People
There's nothing less attractive than someone who acts completely different depending on who they're with.
9. Being A Litterbug
Deliberately harming Mother Earth is not cool, especially because of how serious the climate change problem is these days.
10. Having Angry Outbursts
There is nothing sexy about having angry outbursts (especially in public, yikes), and witnessing your crush lose their sh*t will probably help you lose that crush instantly.
11. Being Annoying AF On Social Media
Everyone should feel free to use social media as they see fit, but if you see a side of someone on Snapchat that makes you cringe, it's normal to feel your crush fade afterwards.
11. Having Stinky Breath
Please brush and floss your teeth regularly: your crush and your dentist will thank you.
12. Expressing Antiquated Ideas Of Gender
If someone offers to pay, that's super cool; otherwise, it's messed up to insist someone pays simply because they're a man and you're a woman.
13. And A *Definite* Crush-Killer...
Oh, HELL NO — if someone ever kicks a cat (stray or otherwise) in front of me, that crush is cancelled.
Really, it doesn't matter what your personal dealbreakers are: as long as you know what you are (and are not) looking for in a partner, and are able to view your crushes sans rose-colored glasses, it'll be NBD to get over even the most powerful of crushes.