When I talk about the best sex positions with my friends, we can only ever name a few. And they're usually the same ones: doggy, girl on top, missionary. Maybe spooning, if you're fancy. But that's it, because we get into ruts. And it's not that predictable sex is bad — I've had great sex with people where I always knew exactly what's coming next. It's just that it can get boring. And if you're going to be with someone for the long haul, your three go-to positions just aren't going to be enough.
But we return to the same few positions because they feel good — and also because they feel safe. Some positions seem too complicated, too dangerous, or you can't even see why they would feel nice at all (I'm looking at you, scissoring). And while some of them are kind of pointless (scissoring) almost all positions having something great to offer if you give them a try. They may be underrated because they aren't as well known or because they're more of a sitting still position, with not as much thrusting. Trust me, it can be great without the thrusting.
So here are seven underrated sex positions to try ASAP, because there are some hidden gems out there, once you get the hang of it. Remember, these positions work with two women as well.
1. Standing Sex
How To Do It: Carefully. Brace against the wall, separate your legs and lift your leg if need be while they come up behind you and enter you from behind.
Why It's Underrated: Because standing sex is so hard, I can see why you would be scared to try it. But using the wall to support yourself is a total game-changer and when you get it right, it's really sexy.
2. Sofa Brace
How To Do It: It's great, like doggy but with you leaning against the edge of a couch or table. Make sure to use something you can really rest all your weight on it.
Why It's Underrated: Because you get all the great stuff about doggy but the support really allows you to relax and enjoy it. Even though you're "bracing" there's actually a lot of release. Plus, there's really deep penetration.
3. Modified Doggy
How You Do It: Think of a collapsed doggy style position. You can start in doggy and move to your elbows and lay down or start laying down and have them carefully lower on top of you. Put a pillow under your hips if it makes it more comfortable.
Why It's Underrated: You normally only get into it by accident, but it's worth doing on purpose, too. Because it's raunchy and intimate, where most positions are one or the other. Don't be scared to add some clit play into the mix.
4. Reverse Cowgirl
How To Do It: While they lay down, straddle them facing their feet and carefully lower yourself. Use your hands to brace if you need.
Why It's Underrated: People shy away from it because it can be a difficult position to get the knack of — and you can't see each other's face to gauge if you're both enjoying it. But it has a really sexy, just-going-for-it feel— trust that know your partner enough to relax into it.
How To Do It: Your partner sits cross-legged and you climb on top of them, guiding them inside you and using your legs and arms to pull yourselves close together if necessary.
Why It's Underrated: There's not a lot of movement, but that doesn't mean it's not exciting. You get really deep penetration and, if you're having a long session, it gives you both a break from all the humping and pumping.
How To Do It: Lie facing each other. Your pelvis should be just above theirs. I would recommend lube, then hook your top leg over them and shimmy toward each other until they're inside of you. Then, lots of grinding.
Why It's Underrated: It seems like it shouldn't work or fit, so you may have not even thought about trying it — but it's great. Intimate, relaxed, and your hand is free to play with your clit. Definitely worth it.
7. Sitting On A Chair
How To Do It: While they sit in a chair, lower yourself onto them facing away. If your feet touch the floor, you can use them to help bounce you up and down.
Why It's Underrated: Because we don't use props enough, even though they're a great way to mix up your sex life without doing anything too crazy. Plus, it lets you have sex in the living room, which I always love. Netflix and chill, baby.
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