The 7 Most Difficult Things About Dating An Earth Sign

They work first, play later.

by Kristine Fellizar
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Most difficult things about dating an earth sign
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If you’re looking for a partner who’s mature, has their life together, and is total long-term relationship material, look no further than the Earth signs. Since earth is the most solid element, an Earth sign partner is naturally more grounded, reliable, and dependable than any other sign in the zodiac. But dating an Earth sign like Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn, comes with its fair share of challenges as well. According to astrologers, knowing how the element of Earth influences each sign can help you better understand your Earth sign partner.

Western Astrology categorizes every zodiac sign into one of four elements: Earth, Water, Fire, and Air. According to astrologer Cindy Mckean, "Each element has its own characteristic tendencies.” For instance, Fire brings boldness, creativity, and abundant energy to its signs. The Air element is quick, dynamic, communicative, and intellectual. The Water element brings sensitivity, imagination, and emotional depth to those it rules. Finally, the Earth element "colors its signs" with practicality, solidity, and endurance.

"With signs that are part of the Earth element, besides being pragmatic, stoic, and durable, common traits you'd find among them include being economic, efficient, and reliable," McKean says. "If predictability, stability, and longevity is important to you, an Earth sign just might be your ideal partner."

Clearly, there are many things to love about the zodiac’s earthy trio. But as we all know, every sign comes with both good and challenging aspects. Whether you’re compatible with a Taurus, compatible with a Capricorn, or want to know more about Virgo compatibility, according to Mckean and astrologer Amy Tripp, here are the most difficult things about dating an Earth sign.


They're Very Grounded In Reality

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Can you expect anything less? They are Earth signs, after all. Being grounded in reality means that Earth signs tend to place a ton of value on what they see in front of them. "Too much involvement with the material world can lead to a narrow vision or lack of imagination," Tripp says. "Earth signs are often closed off to the realm of the unseen, which can limit their ability to connect to spirituality."

Naturally, Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn aren’t signs that will fall in love at first sight. If you're dating them, your actions need to match up with your words. You also shouldn’t expect them to get excited about the future of your relationship until they're all-in. This can be challenging for some of the more dreamy signs like Pisces who like fantasizing with their partners about what the future can hold. But the good thing is, once an Earth sign is fully in, they're in it for the long haul. Just expect them to stay practical about it.


They Stick To Their Routines And Get Easily Bothered If It Doesn't Go As Planned

If you're someone who craves adventure and likes spontaneity, dating an Earth sign is going to be challenging. "Because Earth signs seek stability and routine they can become stuck when it’s time to make a change," Tripp says. They're not very go-with-the flow and because of that, they're likely to stay in situations that aren’t the best for their growth.

If you're dating a Taurus, in particular, Mckean says making plans and actually following through are super important. "A wrench in the gears can really knock Taurus for a loop," she says. Unlike some people who can easily brush off a last minute change, some Earth signs can't. For Taurus, last minute cancellations can throw them off and bum them out.


They're Very Serious About Work First, Play Later

"Since the Earth element is focused on the material world, too much can make one materialistic and focused on possessions," Tripp says. Earth signs are known for being hard workers. They need stability in their lives in order to feel comfortable enough to relax and enjoy it. But as you would guess, this can cause an imbalance for them. They have a tendency to focus too much on work that it can affect their personal relationships.

Even when a Capricorn is in love, they’re still the hardest working sign among the entire zodiac. According to Mckean, they're very practical and straightforward. For some, that seriousness can be a little off-putting. But that doesn't mean they don't make great partners. "When they seek a partner, they want someone that will walk beside them," she says. "As a partner and lover, Capricorns are fair, gracious, dedicated, and occasionally they schedule in fun. Once a Capricorn has found what they're looking for, they know better than to not value it properly."


Their Relationships Tend To Move At A Slow Pace

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Earth is the slowest moving element, so Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn, tend to do things at a slow pace. That includes moving a relationship forward. Earth signs take their time to really get to know someone before making any commitments. In fact, McKean says, they aren’t into “frivolity, one-night stands, fly-by-night romances, or dreamy castles in the sky.” If you want to get involved with any of the three signs, it’s important to know that they mean business. They don't typically jump from one relationship to the next and they're not the most flirtatious of signs.

According to Tripp, the element of Earth influences its signs to be more cautious and reserved when it comes to matters of the heart. "They like to think things through before acting," she says. "They are often methodical and thorough in their approach." If you're dating an Earth sign, just expect to go at a slow and steady pace. It may be challenging, but if you're patient, it can pay off in the very best ways.


They Don't Like Major Change

Earth signs value stability, so major changes can really bother them. Taurus, in particular, are known for being headstrong and extremely stubborn. "They're as solid as a mountain," Mckean says. "Once they find a comfortable seat, they find no reason to leave it." For some, that can be kind of boring. If you're someone who likes to try new restaurants or exploring exotic places, convincing an Earth sign to get on board can frustrate you to no end. If you want to shake things up, you’ll have to introduce new things into your relationship very slowly. Give them some time to get used to one thing before bringing up another and you should be fine.


They're Very Practical When It Comes Money

As you know, Earth signs place a ton of value on stability and material goods, and they work really hard in order to have everything they want. So when it comes to finances, it's no surprise that Earth signs are very practical with their money. Virgo, for instance, is the more frugal sign in the zodiac. "While being good with money is a good trait, the more gregarious and comfort seeking signs would find this trait off-putting," Mckean says. Since money tends to be a major source of issues for a lot couples, this can become an issue if your spending habits are incompatible. But if money issues aren't a problem, then you'll have a really great partner in Virgo. "They are very tender hearted and are unlikely to love more than once in their life," she says.


They're Not The Most Romantic Of Signs

According to Tripp, Earth signs rely on their senses when making decisions, so they're very practical and efficient. Unless you're a Venus-ruled Taurus, romance isn't really in their nature. Even so, a Taurus would prefer the simple, sensual pleasures over something grand. So if you're someone who expects a ton of romance in your relationship, you may have to hint or outright tell your partner that you want more romance.

Every person you date will have things about them that you like and don’t like. Earth signs may be too practical and slow-moving for some, but they're stable, loyal, and take love super seriously. So if you’re looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, an Earth sign is a really great option.


Amy Tripp, astrologer

Cindy Mckean, astrologer

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