Whether it's a casual hook-up, a summer fling, or a long-term relationship, I love using sex toys with my partners. As a woman who needs clitoral stimulation to orgasm, intercourse alone just isn't going to do it for me. And, even if my partner has magic fingers or a gifted tongue, using sex toys together can take the pressure off them to get me to orgasm. So we both win.
"There's this fear that sex toys are making people less into each other, that they're too mechanical etc, but they actually improve sex, make people want to be with each other, and can connect you over long distances," Claire Cavanah, co-founder of sex shop Babeland, tells Bustle. It's also in using sex toys with your partner that you have better communication, which is essential for either a one-night stand or a long-term relationship.
While I can easily narrow down my top five sex toys I love to use with a partner, including goodies from b-Vibe (those Cinco Anal Beads —wow!), Satisfyer (the Partner Multifun 1 specifically), and Eva II by Dame Products, my most favorite is Fin by Dame Products. When it comes to sex toy use with a partner, you just can't go wrong. Here's why it's my absolute favorite.
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