If Your Partner Ever Says These 11 Things, You Should Break Up

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Almost every relationship issue can be discussed and improved, so if you're encountering a few problems with your partner, you'll definitely want to talk about what's going on before calling it quits. There are, however, a few comments and conversations that can be a sign it's time to break up. And this is especially true if they're toxic, and your partner brings them up constantly.

When that's the case, it's up to you to decide what flies and what doesn't in your relationship. "A dealbreaker is any behavior that is unacceptable to you," Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW, a NYC-based therapist, tells Bustle. So while one comment may be a dealbreaker in your friend's relationship, it may not be for yours. And that's OK.

Experts do agree, though, that there are a few topics that should almost always be considered dealbreakers in a relationship, usually because they're toxic in nature. In many cases, rude or hurtful comments are used intentionally in an effort to control or manipulate, which is obviously not OK. And other comments can serve as red flags pointing towards underlying character flaws that may affect your relationship in the long run. That's why, if your partner says any of the things listed below, experts say it may be time to move on.

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