Wendy is a Lifestyle Fellow at Bustle and a graduate of Columbia Journalism School. Lover of words and all things cheesy. Fave TV couple: Marshall and Lily from HIMYM, but only after Clark and Lois. Send pitches to wendyluwrites@gmail.com or follow her on Twitter at @wendyluwrites.

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Here's What I Learned From Sitting In A Circle & Talking About Sex With Complete Strangers

I sat cross-legged on the floor of a dimly lit bar, where I talked about sex positions and polyamory with total and complete strangers. We formed a circle, some of us sitting in comfy armchairs and others sitting on top of carpets, checkered mats, an…
By Wendy Lu

11 Books That Are Too Hot To Read In Public

How many times have you opened a book on the subway or bus, only to catch the person next to you looking over your shoulder and reading along? The worst (or perhaps funniest) is when you're reading books with sex scenes and the person's eyes get all …
By Wendy Lu

I Shared My Love Poetry In Public & The Strangers' Reactions Weren't What I Expected

I'm a writer, but not a performer — which is why, as I stood in front of at least 60 people at an open mic, I wondered, "Why the heck am I here? Did I really think it would be a good idea to share my love poetry in public?" We all do stupid things in…
By Wendy Lu

How To Manage Your Relationship Jealousy When It Feels Impossible

Learning how to deal with relationship jealousy is important for every couple, especially if one or both partners are prone to feeling worried about each other's commitment. You or your partner may not like to admit having a jealous streak, but at a …
By Wendy Lu

The Best Way To Overcome Hang-ups In The Bedroom

Everyone has insecurities when it comes to sex, whether it’s their natural body odor or their performance between the sheets. Even if you and your partner are sexually compatible, having sexual hang-ups can make it difficult to have a satisfying sex …
By Wendy Lu

What Women Shouldn't Have To Justify To Friends

Your friends are the ones who accept you no matter what, right? Unfortunately, double standards between men and women don't stop when it comes to friendships. There are plenty of things women are expected to justify in friendships that men don't have…
By Wendy Lu

My Privilege Motivates Me As A Disability Activist

The first time I started to think about my privilege as a disabled person was about six years ago, when I got worried about whether or not my college's disability services would provide me with housing accommodations. "Don't smile too much. Act serio…
By Wendy Lu

How Saving Money Is A Way To Peacefully Resist

Money is a feminist issue — and yet, women are still reluctant to talk about it. According to a recent Bustle survey of more than 1,000 Millennial women, more than 50 percent of people said they never discuss personal finances with friends, even thou…
By Wendy Lu

9 False Things We've Thought About Solo Sex

Let's talk about sex. More specifically, let's talk about solo sex and the misconceptions about masturbation most of us grew up learning from family, our social circles at school, and the media. Socialization from culture, our religion, friends, and …
By Wendy Lu

How To Have The Best One-Night Stand

Maybe you've had several one-night stands and they've all been flops. Or maybe you're just curious about what having sex with a stranger really feels like. Whatever the reason may be, you've come to the right place. "A one-night stand is like a vaca…
By Wendy Lu

This Rethinks The Web For People With Disabilities

For many people with disabilities, accessibility doesn't necessarily equal accommodation. When it comes to using the internet, for instance, computers aren't usually tailored for people with certain disabilities, like severe visual impairment or uppe…
By Wendy Lu

How the United States Ranks In Gender Equality

I always thought of the United States as one of the most progressive countries in the world, but sadly, that's not the case when it comes to women's rights, transgender rights, and egalitarianism in general. Thinking about ways the United States is b…
By Wendy Lu

How To Tell If You're A Good Kisser

Kissing is a beautiful, magical experience, but it can also be overwhelming and downright confusing, especially if you're kissing someone new for the first time. So what are some signs you're great at kissing? "What makes a makeout session great is t…
By Wendy Lu

How To Respond To Gender Bias At Work

Company culture is a major buzzword in the world of hiring and business. When it comes to improving work productivity and employee relations, gender bias is often something that is easily overlooked. Knowing how to respond to gender bias in the work…
By Wendy Lu

Starburst All Pink Packages Are Coming Soon

Here's some exciting news to brighten up your week: Due to popular demand, Starburst is releasing Starburst All Pink packages filled with pink Starbursts — and only pink Starburst — starting in April. Yep, that's right: Soon, you'll be able to get an…
By Wendy Lu

Venus Retrograde Is Right On Schedule

You've probably heard a lot about planets turning retrograde over the last several months. Now, that list includes Venus, the planet of love, relationships, and personal values. If it feels like the Venus retrograde dates for 2017 are late, that's be…
By Wendy Lu

Facebook Photo Ideas For International Women's Day

By now, you probably know that the strike called "A Day Without A Woman" is coming up on March 8, which is the exact same day as International Women's Day. Whether you're planning to participate in the women's strike or volunteer in the community tha…
By Wendy Lu

How To Play Snake On Facebook Messenger

If you love playing games with friends on social media, then you might want to get in on this: Snake, the iconic mobile game from the 1990s and early 2000s, is now available to play on Facebook Messenger. Huzzah! Like its nostalgic counterpart, learn…
By Wendy Lu

Here's When You Should Expect The New Nokia 3310

Here's some big news that's not related to Donald Trump or the Oscars: The brand-new Nokia 3310 phone was just announced at the Mobile World Congress conference on Feb. 26, which means everyone's favorite mobile phone from the 2000s is coming back! F…
By Wendy Lu

What's In A Coconut Milk Mocha Macchiato, Anyway?

If you're a Starbucks fan, then you've probably heard that the 'Bux is coming out with a couple of new flavors of Macchiato drinks for spring: the Iced Cinnamon Almondmilk Macchiato and the Coconut Milk Mocha Macchiato. For those of you who love anyt…
By Wendy Lu