As two of the most reserved signs in the zodiac, Cancer and Virgo will crush on each other for while before one of them makes a move. They both prefer get to know one another on a deeper level and take it slow. It may not be as intense and fiery as other zodiac couples, but it just might work. Cancer and Virgo’s zodiac compatibility has all the insight into this emotional and grounded couple.
“This would be a loving, nurturing relationship,” astrologer Theresa Reed tells Bustle. “Both signs are caretakers, so they’re right at home with each other. Sensitive Cancer helps Virgo get in touch with their feelings, and Virgo’s grounded practicality gives Cancer the security they crave.”
A Cancer-Virgo relationship is one that astrologer Amber Kalm sees pretty often. Oddly enough, these two don’t exactly make the perfect zodiac match on the surface. For one, Cancer is an ever-changing sensitive water sign, while Virgo is a reliable and notoriously judgmental earth sign. Virgo’s critical nature may be too much to handle for Cancer, who tends to things personally. And for a highly organized sign like Virgo, Cancer’s chaotic mood swings may be a major turn-off. But according to Kalm, despite their differences, these two seem to gravitate towards each other as both friends and romantic partners.
Cancer & Virgo’s Sexual Compatibility
Sexually, these two can make a great match — if they can open up to each other about their wants and needs. According to Reed, both Cancer and Virgo tend to be a bit bashful in the bedroom. It’s necessary for them to develop trust before they can fully open up in an intimate way.
As an analytical, Mercury-ruled sign, Virgos are prone to overthinking. They’re total perfectionists who live to “be of service” to others. Naturally, they’d go into a sexual experience aiming to please their partner. But it’s that kind of thinking that causes them to hold back a lot. Fortunately, Cancer is a cardinal sign, which means they don’t mind taking initiative.
“Once they get the ball rolling, Virgo can morph into the attentive lover, which is something Cancer needs,” Reed says. They’re both sensual and will enjoy taking their time finding each other’s erogenous zones.
Cancer & Virgo’s Emotional Compatibility
Cancer and Virgo express their emotions in different ways, which can lead to misunderstandings in their relationship. The more logical Virgo runs everything through their mind, while the ultra-sensitive Cancer feels things deeply and takes everything to heart. Virgos are also big on communication and like talking through problems as they come, while Cancers internalize issues and can be passive-aggressive.
“Virgo may assume Cancer is being ‘dramatic,’ while Cancer may sometimes feel Virgo doesn’t care about their feelings,” Reed says. “When Cancer feels neglected, they shut down, and Virgo will assume the mess is over.”
If Cancer and Virgo want to remain “blissfully connected,” Virgos need to be more mindful about Cancer’s feelings. They may not be as intuitive as the crab, but understanding their partner’s moods can help them to respond more appropriately. Cancer, on the other hand, must learn to be patient with Virgo’s more reserved way of dealing with emotions. Just because Virgos aren’t telling Cancer they love them every five minutes, it doesn’t mean they don’t care.
Reed says they can learn from each other, too. “A Cancer-Virgo partnership can find the balance between head and heart.”
Communication Is The Biggest Problem In A Cancer-Virgo Relationship
One of the biggest potential issues between these two is how they communicate and solve problems. According to Kalm, Virgo likes things to be direct. They like facts and want things to be laid out for them plainly. Cancer, driven by their emotions, may have difficulty taking a step back and thinking through things logically.
“This can leave a lot of confusion between them,” Kalm says. “The best bet here is for Virgo to respect Cancer’s space and let them live out their storms with compassion. Likewise, Cancer needs to watch out for how they lash out during these moodier times.” It’s going to take some work and a lot of patience to get to a place where they can communicate and understand how the other operates. But once they do, these two can have a pretty harmonious relationship.
Overall, Cancer and Virgo are a pretty good zodiac match in a relationship. Finding that middle ground between emotion and logic is going to be key. Ultimately, they both want to build a solid and reliable relationship that lasts. And if they’re willing to put in the effort, these two definitely have what it takes to make things work long-term.
Theresa Reed, astrologer and author of Astrology For Real Life - A No BS Guide for the AstroCurious
Amber Kalm, astrologer with Kalm Spirit Astrology