Are Cancer & Virgo Compatible In A Relationship?
They both want a stable relationship that lasts.
As two of the most reserved signs in the zodiac, Cancer and Virgo will crush on each other for while before one of them makes a move. They both prefer get to know one another on a deeper level and take it slow. It may not be as intense and fiery as other zodiac couples, but it just might work. Cancer and Virgo compatibility shows why this emotional and grounded couple work as a pair.
“This would be a loving, nurturing relationship,” astrologer Theresa Reed tells Bustle. “Both signs are caretakers, so they’re right at home with each other. Sensitive Cancer helps Virgo get in touch with their feelings, and Virgo’s grounded practicality gives Cancer the security they crave.”
A Cancer-Virgo relationship is one that astrologer Amber Kalm sees pretty often. Oddly enough, these two don’t exactly make the perfect zodiac match on the surface. For one, Cancer is an ever-changing sensitive water sign, while Virgo is a reliable — and notoriously judgmental — earth sign. Virgo’s critical nature may be too much to handle for Cancer, who tends to things personally. And for a highly organized sign like Virgo, Cancer’s chaotic mood swings may be a major turn-off. But according to Kalm, despite their differences, these two seem to gravitate towards each other as both friends and romantic partners.
Cancer & Virgo’s Sexual Compatibility
Sexually, Virgo and Cancer can make a great match — if they can open up to each other about their wants and needs. According to Reed, both Cancer and Virgo tend to be a bit bashful in the bedroom. It’s necessary for them to develop trust before they can fully open up in an intimate way.
As an analytical, Mercury-ruled sign, Virgos are prone to overthinking. They’re total perfectionists who live to “be of service” to others. Naturally, they’d go into a sexual experience aiming to please their partner. But it’s that kind of thinking that causes them to hold back a lot. Fortunately, Cancer is a cardinal sign, which means they don’t mind taking initiative.
“Once they get the ball rolling, Virgo can morph into the attentive lover, which is something Cancer needs,” Reed says. They’re both sensual and will enjoy taking their time finding each other’s erogenous zones.
Cancer & Virgo’s Emotional Compatibility
Cancer and Virgo express their emotions in different ways, which can lead to misunderstandings in their relationship. The more logical Virgo runs everything through their mind, while the ultra-sensitive Cancer feels things deeply and takes everything to heart. Virgos are also big on communication and like talking through problems as they come, while Cancers internalize issues and can be passive-aggressive.
“Virgo may assume Cancer is being ‘dramatic,’ while Cancer may sometimes feel Virgo doesn’t care about their feelings,” Reed says. “When Cancer feels neglected, they shut down, and Virgo will assume the mess is over.”
If Cancer and Virgo want to remain “blissfully connected,” Virgos need to be more mindful about Cancer’s feelings. They may not be as intuitive as the crab, but understanding their partner’s moods can help them to respond more appropriately. Cancer, on the other hand, must learn to be patient with Virgo’s more reserved way of dealing with emotions. Just because Virgos aren’t telling Cancer they love them every five minutes, it doesn’t mean they don’t care.
Reed says they can learn from each other, too. “A Cancer-Virgo partnership can find the balance between head and heart.”
Cancer & Virgo Dating Compatibility
In dating, Cancer and Virgo compatibility is strong, as both signs value home, family, and the little pleasures in life.
“When they first meet Virgo is drawn into the goodness of Cancer and the Cancer is stimulated by the wittiness and thoughtfulness of Virgo,” astrologer Stina Garbis tells Bustle. “When they date, Cancer is the one to become more emotional at first and are able to draw Virgo out of their dark shell. This couple could enjoy simple dates of simply running errands together or going shopping for groceries, preparing to cook a meal for each other.”
Although they make a good match overall, Virgo can be a rather critical sign and can easily hurt Cancer’s feelings. They’ll have to get used to each other’s personalities and way of communicating. However, both signs are commitment oriented and have the patience to work things out.
Cancer & Virgo Friendship Compatibility
Virgo and Cancer make a really good match for friendship because they balance each other nicely. According to Garbis, Virgo is a strong encourager for Cancer, and will always make sure they’re doing well. The virgin is the type of friend who’ll drag them out at five in the morning for a run to make sure that Cancer stays on top of their health. Cancer, on the other hand, will always be there for Virgo regardless of the situation. They’ll provide them with a safe space to share their feelings, and Virgo will appreciate having a friend who truly listens without judgement.
Cancer & Virgo Communication
Communication is an area of the relationship that Cancer and Virgo may struggle with most because they express themselves in very different ways. For instance, when it comes to communicating love, Cancers are very loving, sweet, and affectionate with their words, while Virgos do it through acts of service. For Virgo, pointing out ways for their partner to improve is their particular way of showing love. Sensitive Cancer, of course, won’t see it like that. “Virgo’s critical nature is bound to strike a nerve eventually with Cancer, who may internalize some of their suggestions in a harsh way,” Kalm says.
Additionally, solving problems may be quite challenging between these two, since Cancer is an emotional water sign who responds to situations based on how they’re feeling, while Virgo is a practical earth sign who has the ability to take a step back and think things through logically. Cancers are notorious for being passive-aggressive when mad or upset, which may frustrate their Virgo partner who just wants things back in order.
“Ever the over-thinker, Virgo may circle over and over to understand the mysterious ways of the Moon,” Kalm says. “This is a wild goose chase as the mysteries of Cancer may never be solved by mortal men. In fact, pushing this matter further can only result in Cancer snapping back even harder. Cancer does not like to be pushed out of their shell and the incessant questioning or prodding can only make matters worse.”
Potential Problems In A Cancer & Virgo Relationship
One of the biggest potential issues between these two is how they communicate and solve problems. According to Kalm, Virgo likes to be direct. They like things to be laid out for them plainly. Cancer, driven by their emotions, may have difficulty taking a step back and thinking through things logically.
“This can leave a lot of confusion between them,” Kalm says. “The best bet here is for Virgo to respect Cancer’s space and let them live out their storms with compassion. Likewise, Cancer needs to watch out for how they lash out during these moodier times.” It’s going to take some work and a lot of patience to get to a place where they can communicate and understand how the other operates. But once they do, these two can have a pretty harmonious relationship.
Are Cancer & Virgo A Good Match?
Overall, Cancer and Virgo are a pretty good zodiac match in a relationship. Finding that middle ground between emotion and logic is going to be key. Ultimately, they both want to build a solid and reliable relationship that lasts. And if they’re willing to put in the effort, these two definitely have what it takes to make things work long-term.
Theresa Reed, astrologer and author of Astrology For Real Life - A No BS Guide for the AstroCurious
Amber Kalm, astrologer with Kalm Spirit Astrology
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