Iman Hariri-Kia
Iman is a New York City based writer, musician, and Elite Daily's Associate Sex & Dating Editor. Her work has been featured in the Huffington Post, Bustle, and Teen Vogue. You can often find her writing and performing sad songs about those who wronged her in Middle School. @ImanHaririKia

I Had A Nonexistent Work-Life Balance — Until It Made Me Sick

When I was young, I used to think that the concept of a good "work-life balance" was for old people. Only people with ordinary lives — a nine-to-five job, a savings account, etc. — could obsess over such ordinary things, right? As aspiring writer, I…
By Iman Hariri-Kia

When You Have A Digestive Illness, Being In Love Literally Makes You Want To Puke

I remember sitting up in bed on a Saturday night, my back pressed firmly up against the wall, covered in my own puke. It was my senior year of college, and I already felt a lingering sense of FOMO from choosing to stay in, rather than go out. I was…
By Iman Hariri-Kia

Hey, Exercise Instructors — Quit Telling Me To Smile

This year, Bustle is celebrating Rule Breakers — the women and non-binary individuals among us who dare to be themselves no matter what. In the lead-up to Bustle's Rule Breakers 2018 event happening Sept. 22, we are featuring stories from an array…
By Iman Hariri-Kia

I Used To Live In Fear Of Carbs — Until I Was Diagnosed With Celiac Disease

For as long as I can remember, I lived in fear of carbs, and the havoc I believed they could wreak on my body. I grew up in a pretty health-conscious household. There was a time when I would blissfully order sugar-filled coffee drinks after school…
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13 Women On The First Time They Stood Up For Themselves

My whole life I was instructed to proceed with caution, err on the side of politeness, and, when all else fails, apologize. The words "I'm sorry" felt as commonplace as my name, the response as deeply engrained within me as brushing my teeth before…
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I Changed My Alarm Clock Noise & It Made A Huge Difference In How I Wake Up

In a recent meeting, a co-worker and I were bonding over the bizarrely harsh, disruptive alarm clock sounds available to us on our phones. The loud blaring beep hardly screams rise and shine — and yet, neither of us had ever considered changing it…
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9 Women Reveal The First Time They Felt Comfortable Saying "No

When I was a little girl, my grandfather nicknamed me "Madame No". Apparently, I was such a contrarian at the time that every other word that came out my mouth was intended to decline. Ironically, after that age, I grew rather uncomfortable telling…
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10 Women Share What They Do When They Go On A Social Media Cleanse

I was chatting with a co-worker in the kitchen the other day, when she off-handedly mentioned that she was taking a break from Instagram. Surprised, as I had recently seen her post on the app, I looked up from heating my oatmeal and asked her to…
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8 Questions To Ask A Psychic If You're Unsure About Your Relationship

No relationship is perfect, and like anything that gives results in gratification, relationships take work. The myth of finding your soulmate and suddenly watching all of your problems fade away is just that: a myth. But when you're in a…
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7 Times It’s Actually OK To Ignore Your Gut About Your Relationship

We've all been told countless times to trust our guts, but what does that actually mean? You probably know that your gut is that tiny tickle inside your belly, the 'uh-oh' feeling you get when something just isn't right. But on the other hand,…
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10 Strange & Extremely Creepy Things You Never Knew Your Body Could Do After You Die

Do you ever watch a paranormal horror movie and find yourself wondering if any of those tropes about dead bodies are true? Can a corpse really sit up and scream post-mortem? Do carcasses actually turn purple? Well, lo and behold, there might…
By Iman Hariri-Kia

8 Ways To Support The LGBTQ Community If You Can’t Make It To A Pride Celebration

June is quickly coming to a close, as is the month of Pride: 30 days dedicated to commemoration, solidarity, and celebration. But don't you worry — despite the startlingly fast rate at which this month has flown by, there is still time to overtly…
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I Was Told To Stop Racially Identifying As "Other" On Applications — Here’s Why I Won’t Listen

This year, Bustle is celebrating Rule Breakers — the women and non-binary individuals among us who dare to be themselves no matter what. In the lead-up to our list of Bustle's Rule Breakers of 2018 going live in late August, we are featuring stories…
By Iman Hariri-Kia

30 Women Tell Us Their Very First Screen Name

Isn't it nuts how far technology has come in the past decade? Ten years ago, my parents had just granted me access to AOL Instant Messenger, and crafting a profile along with my very first screen name was one of the greatest thrills I'd ever…
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18 People Share The Exact Moment They First Felt Like An Adult

What was the defining moment that made you feel like you were finally an adult? I can't quite put my finger on mine — maybe it was the first real paycheck I received, or the first time I treated my parents to dinner, or even the first vacation I…
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27 Tips To Get Over Your Fear Of Public Speaking, According To Michelle Obama's Speechwriter

Public speaking can seem like a daunting feat for some. The ability to cleverly write and passionately deliver a speech implies a lot of subtle pressure, making it a nerve-wracking pursuit. But for many of us, it's a skill we still wish to acquire,…
By Iman Hariri-Kia

13 Common Things You Think People Find Sexy, But They Actually Don’t

Attraction is a subjective spectrum: there is no one personality trait or quirk that makes a person universally appealing. That concept, as a whole, is a flat out myth. Attraction can differ based on the individual, a culture, a region, and more.…
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What Depression Really Feels Like, According To Twitter

Depression is a disease that truly does not discriminate, and it's time we start an open and honest dialogue about the realities of living in it's shadow. In fact, it's so incredibly common that according to a report by the National Institute of…
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11 Funny Texts To Send Your BFFs On National Best Friends Day

I take vows of friendship very seriously. As someone who has gone through numerous bouts of insecurity and anxiety, I have always heavily relied on the strength of my friendships to put me back together once i've fallen apart. I truly believe that I…
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I Tried Trading Living Spaces With My Partner For A Week & Honestly Couldn't Take It Anymore

Upon graduation, my partner and I both separately decided to move to Manhattan — he was starting a new job, and I was desperate to return to the vibrant city I had grown up in. As a creative, my plan at the time looked more like an abstract painting…
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