Michelle Toglia
Sex and Relationships Editor at Bustle. She loves pickles, hula hooping, and all of the monkey emojis.

Here's What Happened When I Organized A March For Sex Workers' Rights

On June 2, 2018 in Los Angeles, about 200 sex workers gathered in an outdoor patio bar in Hollywood to rally. We set out to interrupt traffic in the busiest intersection in Hollywood during rush hour on a Saturday afternoon. We called it “Let Us Surv…
By Antonia Crane

7 Alternatives If An IUD Is Not Something Your Doctor Recommends

With the nomination of Judge Brett Kavanaugh to fill Justice Anthony Kennedy's seat, President Trump is following through on his campaign promise to stack the Supreme Court with conservative justices less than halfway through his first term. Among th…
By Mariella Mosthof

17 Ways To Figure Out Exactly What You Want In A Partner — And Feel Confident Asking For It

Dating can be completely frustrating to begin with, but it's even harder when you don't know what you're looking for. Worse is when you have the slightest idea of what you want, but you feel too guilty asking for it. In a recent Bustle survey, almost…
By Michelle Toglia

We Asked 149 Women To Tell Us The One Thing That Frustrates Them Most About Being Single

Any love expert will tell you that all relationships require work, and can offer tip after tip on how to get past boredom, frustrations, and ruts, but oftentimes they're talking about romantic relationships. What about our dating lives? What about th…
By Michelle Toglia

21 Small Changes To Make To Your Relationship When You’re Feeling Bored

As much as many of us would like to believe otherwise, healthy long-term relationships require work. And one great reminder that love takes effort is when you're feeling bored in your relationship. After all, if you're not willing to get a little cre…
By Michelle Toglia

7 Women Get Real About Exactly How Birth Control Has Impacted Their Lives

Just a week after the election last year, we celebrated Thanks, Birth Control, a day The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy created to honor the role contraception plays in our lives, with uncertainty. What would a Trump presid…
By Michelle Toglia

Why These Women Didn't Post #MeToo Stories (And It's Not Because They Didn't Have Them)

Like many, as I scrolled through my feed and saw #MeToo post after #MeToo post after the 10-year-old Me Too movement took on a new life in the form of a viral hashtag earlier this week, I was overcome with just about every emotion under the sun. I fe…
By Michelle Toglia

These Women’s Twitter Stories Prove How Birth Control Is An Essential Medicine

After three failed attempts, the Trump administration still hasn't been able to repeal and replace the Affordable Care Act — but that hasn't stopped them from overhauling a vital ACA mandate. On Friday, Trump rolled back the birth control coverage ma…
By Michelle Toglia

People On Twitter Are Celebrating Their Fake Partners For National Boyfriend Day & It'll Give You Life

October 3 is National Boyfriend Day. If you're rolling your eyes, suddenly feeling nauseated, and wondering what this world has come to and why, you are not alone. Are relationships not being celebrated enough on Instagram and Facebook? Are men in re…
By Michelle Toglia

I’m Bustle’s Sex Editor & Here Are My Five-Word Reviews Of 13 Sex Toys

For the month of September, Bustle’s Sex TBH package is talking about sex, honestly. We’re delving into how women approach the things they’re taught to be shy or embarrassed about in the bedroom — and, in doing so, we're liberating people to live the…
By Michelle Toglia

People Are Freaking Out About Their Eyes After Looking At The Eclipse & Here's What An Eye Doctor Says

If there was one thing to know about the 2017 solar eclipse that hit on Monday, August 21, aside from what time it was visible in your area, it was that you needed to protect your eyes to prevent temporary or permanent damage while sun got obscured b…
By Michelle Toglia

A 'Broad City' Sex Toy Line Is Finally Here & Your Nature's Pocket Will Be Very Pleased

The official Broad City sex toy line is finally here, and if you're wondering where the hell has this been all my life?, you are not alone, my friend. Lovehoney, one of the world’s largest sex toy retailers (who also created Mötley Crüe and Fifty Sha…
By Michelle Toglia

You Can Now Throw Shade At Your Ex At The Museum Of Broken Relationships In NYC

If you could say *one* last thing to your ex what would it be? That's the basis for a new Bravo show A Night With My Ex (premiering July 18) and the Museum of Broken Relationships: The EX-hibition a pop-up museum in New York. The crowdsourced exhibit…
By Michelle Toglia

The Museum Of Broken Relationships Is Coming To NYC & Here's What I'm Donating

As someone who's insanely nostalgic, I save everything. I may not ever have a use for my 1999 YM or book report from second grade, but by keeping these things around, I feel like I'm keeping memories attached to them alive too. Even the not-so-great …
By Michelle Toglia

Your Avocado Toast Obsession May Be Impacting Your Dating Life In A Major Way

Another reason to be loud and proud about your love for avocado toast, despite what the millionaires say? According to dating app Hater, the swiping app that matches you based on things you love, hate, like, and dislike, your avo toast addiction is p…
By Michelle Toglia

You Can Now Add Videos To Your Profile On This Popular Dating App

Last summer I received a Facebook friend request and then a "hey, how's it going?" text from a guy I met on a dating app (but never IRL) three years prior. Three years! We talked briefly, exchanged numbers, but never ended up meeting up or talking ag…
By Michelle Toglia

How Dating Apps Have Prevented Me From Actually Dating

Even though dating apps are most popular among Millennials, according to a recent SeatGeek survey of 1,000 singles, 95 percent would rather meet people IRL versus online or on an app. That's why for the second year in a row, Bustle is deeming April, …
By Michelle Toglia

The Hardest Part About Deleting My Dating Apps Is Also The Scariest

Whether dating apps are causing a "dating apocalypse" or are merely the easiest way to get a date, there's no denying these tools have been total gamechangers in the dating scene within the last few years. And even though dating apps are most popular…
By Michelle Toglia

19 Date Ideas That Don’t Require Alcohol

After two drinking-centric dates, Dan* told me he was going to do a sober month. I feel like nothing bad can come from someone cutting out booze, but I also wondered what that would mean for our next few dates. While I'm not the biggest drinker, alco…
By Michelle Toglia

How To Make The Most Out Of A Month Without Dating Apps

Whether dating apps are causing a "dating apocalypse" or are merely the easiest way to get a date, there's no denying these tools have been total gamechangers in the dating scene within the last few years. And even though dating apps are most popular…
By Michelle Toglia