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50 Opening Lines For Bumble That Dating Experts Swear By

“There's something wrong with my phone. It doesn't have your number in it.”

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The best Bumble conversation starters lead with a juicy question to ask your match.
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Swiping on Bumble is all fun and games until you remember it’s up to you to send the first message. Instead of waiting for clever opening lines to roll in, Bumble puts the ball entirely in your court. So, what’s the best way to get a conversation started?

Cheesy opening lines are always a decent option when you’re completely at a loss for what to say. But if you really want to have fun back and forth, scroll through the person’s bio, see what you have in common, and try being a little more personal.

Three points to hit? “Ask open-ended questions that hint at who you are, demonstrate curiosity [in their life], and elicit a discussion,” says dating coach Lori Ann Kret, LCSW, BCC. This will make it nearly impossible for them to respond with a boring one-word answer.

It’s also a good idea to keep authenticity in mind. While it can be so tempting to try to “say the right thing” or be impressive when sending messages on Bumble, it’s much better to stay true to yourself and ask questions that feel like they’re coming from a genuine place. “You may not get as many matches this way, but those who do engage will be higher quality connections for you,” Kret says.

If you don't hear back after reaching out, don’t panic. According to dating coach Veronica Grant, you won’t want to waste your time with someone who isn’t responding or matching your energy, so simply scroll to the next suitor and move on.

The dating pond is vast and there will always be someone else to talk to on Bumble or other dating apps. With that in mind, keep reading for 50 ways to get people chatting on dating apps.

1

“Your travel photos are amazing! When did you go to Alaska?”

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If you spy a few pretty pictures of a recent vacation, consider that your in. “Travel always seems to make it onto people's dating profiles," Grant says, which is why this topic is often the easiest place to start. Scroll through their bio in search of a shot of a mountain or a European city, and start asking about it.

2

“Wow, I think you're the first [insert unexpected job] I've come across on this app!”

If someone's career stands out to you, let them know that it piqued your interest. Maybe they're a zoologist, or a coffee taste-tester, or a professional cuddler. Whatever the case may be, they'll likely laugh, agree that they have a weird gig, and then tell you all about it.

3

“I'm a huge comedy fan, too. My favorite album is Maria Bamford's 'Ask Me About My New God.' hbu?”

Dating bios can start to blur together, so the moment you spot someone with a similar interest, cling to it like the proverbial life raft it is. If you're both obsessed with comedy, for example, ask if they've heard your favorite album. If yes, commence bonding. If not, offer to send them a Spotify link.

4

“I feel like I’ve seen everything on Netflix. Have you watched anything cool lately?”

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“You can tell a lot about a person based on what they're watching,” says relationship expert Sameera Sullivan, so why not kick things off by asking for a show rec? It’ll also give you a reason to check back in a few hours later to share your thoughts.

5

“There's something wrong with my phone. It doesn't have your number in it.”

Nobody likes it when strangers saunter up in a bar to say something lame, like "Hey baby, what's your sign?" But when said in a low-key, jokey kind of way on a dating app, cheesy pick-up lines can suddenly seem like fun icebreakers.

Use this one if it seems like the other person has a good sense of humor and won't take you too seriously. Hopefully, they'll volley right back with an equally cringe response, and before you know it you'll be in love.

6

“Here’s my best opening line: ------------”

For another knee-slapper, send a literal opening line in the form of a bunch of dashes. (Get it?) It's perfect for when you aren't quite sure where to start a conversation, but still really want to say hi.

Again, this is just about breaking the ice and getting a convo rolling. Once they respond, follow up with a deeper getting-to-know-you question, possibly by asking about where they grew up and what they do for fun. Oh, or if they'd like to meet up for a date.

7

“Where would you visit if you could go anywhere right now?”

It’s always fun to talk about travel, whether it’s faraway destinations or places a little closer to home. Open up with a question about where they’d like to visit, then follow up with Qs about past vacations, what they love about being on the road, the best meals they’ve had, etc. Travel-adjacent topics truly are endless.

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"I couldn't help but notice your bookshelf. What are you reading right now?"

Nothing bonds two people quite like a shared love of books, so if you notice they're also a reader — like, maybe you spy a photo of their bookshelf or a link to their reading list — use it to your advantage. You’ll be offering to swap books in no time.

9

"Where's the coolest place you've ridden your motorcycle?"

Try something else instead of saying “hey, cool motorcycle” or “hi, cute car,” ask if they’ve been on any fun road trips lately, suggests dating coach Katie Grimes. She says honing in on someone’s unique interests is a good way to get them talking.

10

“I'm super hungry rn and need inspiration. What are you making for dinner?”

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When in doubt, talk about food, cooking, or recipe ideas — none of which should elicit a one-word response. If it does, follow up by asking for a recipe.

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“What’s one thing people assume about you that isn’t necessarily true?”

It's tough to accurately represent who you are as a person on a dating app. Many people are secretly hoping to share more about themselves or explain their profile answers in greater detail, which is why this opening line is such a good one. The other person will likely jump at the chance to clarify a thing or two, and maybe even tell a few fun stories about themselves.

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“What usually attracts you to somebody? For me, it's always good style and a love of dogs ;)”

Susan Trombetti, a matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, recommends being a bit cheeky and flirty on dating apps by pointing out someone’s most appealing traits. “This line shows them you aren’t shy to take notice of the little things,” she tells Bustle. To make sure they really take the hint, call out their tattoo, their mullet, or their cheeky smile.

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“Cool Smiths T-shirt. What's the best concert you've ever been to?”

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For more inspo, think about how you start conversations in real life. Typically, you’ll notice something about a person, like their shirt, or comment on a shared experience, like the weather or how long the line is to get into a bar.

Grant says you can do something similar on dating apps by perusing a person’s photos or profile, picking up on small details, and molding them into a conversation. When the opening line feels natural, the convo will be, too.

14

“If you could only have 5 apps on your phone, what would they be?”

Trombetti is also a fan of this question. Not only is it unexpected and fun, but it also ends up being oddly revealing about a person’s hobbies and interests.

15

“OK, two truths and a lie.”

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Send them two truths and one lie about yourself and have them guess which is which. Trombetti says it’s an easy way to get to know each other — and again, get a bit flirty.

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“Wow, it's really coming down out there. What do you like to do when it rains?”

This conversation starter feels casual since all you're doing is acknowledging the weather. But it’ll also provide useful insight into what the other person likes to do on a chill evening at home. Do they like to listen to music? Watch Netflix? Bake? Their answer will tell you a lot about them — and hopefully lead to a cozy convo that lasts all night.

17

“I'm taking a poll. Do you prefer X or Y?”

Choose a light-hearted topic and message them to take a poll. Do they like savory or sweet? Beach or mountains? Staying in or going out? See what they say and ask why.

18

“Anyways, I'd love to get to know you more. Wanna chat on FaceTime?”

If you don't hear back right away or are worried your opening line has fallen flat, Grant suggests sending this message to see if it inspires a response. Remember it isn't worth it to force a conversation or waste your time waiting around for someone to write back. Consider this a last resort, before gracefully moving on.

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“What's the best (or worst) opening line you've received on here?”

Relationship coach Nancy Ruth Deen suggests this question as a fun way to halfway admit you don’t know what else to say, while also still taking control. It could result in a fun and honest exchange about all the bizarre opening lines you’ve both received over the years.

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“Your dog is so cute! And you aren’t bad either :P”

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Everyone knows pet parents can talk about their fur children for days. If you are among those ranks, you’ve got a super easy way to break the ice. “This is a great way to be flirtatious and get the conversation going,” Sandra Myers, a matchmaker and relationship expert, tells Bustle.

21

“Hey! It’s nice to meet you.”

Want something straightforward? Dating expert Mindie Barnett actually loves going in with a simple greeting like this one. It leaves a nice blank slate for further discussion, but also feels warm and inviting since it’s bathed in enthusiasm.

22

“Please answer the following pre-screening questions:”

Come up with a list of half-funny, half-serious “pre-screening” questions to ask from the jump, suggests Myers, and run through them like you’re giving a cheeky interview. If you don’t like their answers, politely move on. That’s what dating apps are for, after all.

23

“If you could completely change careers, what would you do?”

So many people ask what others do for work on dating apps, and while that’s OK, it’s fun to turn the question on its head. “This one will get their attention without going too far off the beaten path,” dating expert Melissa Braverman tells Bustle.

24

“Hey! I’m glad we matched! What are you up to this weekend?”

If you’re on the cusp of a weekend, Barnett suggests following up by asking if they have any weekend plans or what they hope to get into. If you’re messaging on a Monday, simply ask how their weekend went to get them chatting. Easy peasy.

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“If I saw you in a bar, I’d definitely say hi :)”

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While there’s a lot of pressure that comes with being the one to start a conversation on a dating app, try to look at it as a positive thing. Enjoy the experience and see who you meet.

26

“There has GOT to be a story behind that first photo!”

“The worst opening line on an app is one that doesn't ask for information,” says professional matchmaker Erika Kaplan. So instead of liking one of their photos, dig for more info.

27

“What’s your favorite and least favorite part about winter in NYC?”

According to Kaplan, it’s easy to get a conversation going if you ask them to tell you more about where they live. You’ll instantly have something in common, and you can always branch out from there by asking about their favorite bars, restaurants, and picnic spots. It’s the perfect lead-up to scheduling a date.

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“I have totally been to that bar — I wonder if we’ve crossed paths! When was that picture taken?”

“If you recognize a local place from one of your match’s photos, go with it,” Kaplan says. “Asking them when they were last there makes for an easy opener.” You can always segue this into a playful invitation to “bump into each other” there sometime soon.

29

“Admittedly, opening lines on Bumble aren’t my strong suit, but I promise I’m worth responding to... so, hi! I’m [name].”

“It really, truly is better to lead with a question or something that makes it easy for your match to answer. But if you're not feeling creative, it's still always worth shooting your shot,” says Kaplan. “Your match might even find your candor charming.”

As long as you remain positive and friendly you still have a chance of getting a response. This would work best if you notice a hint of silly self-deprecation in your match’s own bio, too.

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“Omg, I know Ben, too! How do you know each other?”

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If, by some magical chance, you recognize a person in their profile pics, go ahead and call it out. It’ll put you both at ease, knowing that you move in the same circles, and it’ll also give you plenty to talk about as you try to figure out your connection.

31

“No way, my dad’s also an interior designer! How long have you been in the field?”

Again, looking for things you have in common is always going to be an ideal way to wriggle your foot in the door. Hey, even if it’s your second cousin twice removed who’s an architect, you can still use it as your in.

32

“A fellow Mitski fan I see. Did you know she has a concert here next month?”

Nothing beats a shared taste in music, especially when you’re hoping to fall in love. Ask them if they’d like to get coffee to talk about your favorite songs, then, if all goes well, you can follow up a few days later by suggesting you get concert tickets.

33

“Hey! It looks like we live in the same neighborhood. When did you move to the city?”

Lob your match a softball by asking them to talk a little bit more about their themselves, like their journey to the big city. By asking a question they definitely know the answer to, they’ll be way more likely to respond, says Kaplan. People love to talk about themselves, so lean into it.

34

“Tell me more about all of your friends in this photo!”

If your match has lots of group photos, then it’s clear they value their friendships. To get them gabbing, ask them to explain who everyone is.

35

“Okay... I see you’re a Boston fan. Do you think we could still make this work even though I love the Yankees?”

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If your match is a mega-sports fan, this question will have them responding in seconds. An intense sports rivalry will certainly inspire a heated conversation, and maybe even one that quickly moves to text.

36

“Truth or dare?”

Ask your match to choose truth or dare, and see what they say. (And, of course, have a juicy follow-up ready to go.) How could they possibly ignore such an intriguing question?

37

“Quick! What three words would you use to describe yourself?”

This is such a fun one because it gets you thinking, but it’s also one that doesn’t apply too much pressure. Dating experts recommend getting the other person talking about themselves and this is an easy way to do it.

38

“I’m in the mood for a new podcast. Got any suggestions?”

Just like books and movies, people have strong opinions about podcasts, so they’ll surely answer soon.

39

“Here’s my dealbreaker question... are you more of a morning person? Or a night person?”

To make sure that you’re compatible in all the ways that matter most, you’ll want to check in and find out if they’re more of a morning or a night person, ASAP.

40

“Be honest. Who was your first celebrity crush?”

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Who they loved when they were 15 is kind of like a built-in character assessment, and it’ll also strike up a fun conversation.

41

“Say something to impress me.”

While Bumble is all about being the first one to reach out, it doesn’t mean you have to do all the work. Ask them to impress you and see what they say. Bonus points if it’s really clever.

42

“Okay, I’m here. What are your other two wishes?”

If you feel like being sassy, go for this opening line. It’s flirty, and it also shows that you know who the real prize is.

43

“If you were a character from Friends, which one would you be?”

Choose a show, movie, or book that fits your taste and ask them to identify with one of the characters, as a way to break the ice. Here’s hoping they’re just as much of a fan as you.

44

“If you had to, which one are you getting rid of? Salsa, queso, or guacamole.”

Think of a category — food always works — and give them options to see what they’re keeping and what they can do without.

45

“I can’t get over how cute you are.”

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For when it’s 11 p.m. and you’re feeling bold.

46

“A three-day weekend is coming up. Are you a) going out of town, b) staying in, or c) hanging out with me :)”

Dating experts recommend getting off the apps as soon as possible, so you can see if you’re compatible IRL. Offer to meet up for a quick coffee.

47

“I was about to delete this godforsaken app, but then I saw your profile.”

Once you start talking, you can commiserate over how tough it is about there.

48

“Before this conversation continues, I need tosee your most recent Spotify playlist.”

Treat it like a test and see what they send.

49

“What’s a guy like you doing home on a Friday night?”

Send with lots of winky faces.

50

“We matched! It’s Bumble law that we now have to meet up for a date.”

This one’s risky, but it could pay off.

Dating experts:

Veronica Grant, love and life coach

Sameera Sullivan, relationship expert

Katie Grimes, dating coach

Susan Trombetti, matchmaker

Nancy Ruth Deen, relationship coach

Sandra Myers, matchmaker and relationship expert

Mindie Barnett, dating expert

Melissa Braverman, dating expert

Erika Kaplan, matchmaker and VP of membership at Three Day Rule

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