13 Things To Put On Your Ultimate Sex Bucket List
One of the most beautiful things about sex is the ability to get experimental and try out new things with your partner. Whether you're trying a new position or bringing some toys into the bedroom, there are unlimited possibilities for you and your partner get off. And thanks to porn, TV, movies, and the Internet, as well as the endless books and magazine articles written on one of the world's favorite topics, infinite inspiration for experimentation is always at your disposal.
But when it comes down to it, there are certain things that, without a doubt, you must try at least once in the bedroom (or outdoors). That's why I encourage you to come up with an Ultimate Sex Bucket List to unleash your curious side. Sex in public? Definitely. Sex with more than one person? Of course! Mastering the female orgasm? Oh hell yeah. And beyond the obvious things you've fantasized about, I've included some others for your consideration. You'll never know how much you love food in the bedroom or handcuffing your partner unless you try it.
1. Sex In Public
They say the ultimate rush of sexy fun happens when you do something truly risky, like having sex in public. The chance of getting caught on top of feeling so exposed helps create an erotic experience akin to having a secret liaison. I recommend doing it at night, and somewhere the risk of getting in trouble is minimal (I don't want you getting arrested, after all). Opt for the quickie to add an even more intense sense of urgency than if you were doing it behind closed doors.
When it comes to sexual experimentation, having a threesome is the classic. After all, what is more daring than having sex with not one but two different people? Whatever combination of people you choose, I say you try it at least once if it's something you've always been curious about. Alternating between different positions with different people, while catering to two other people's needs, can be intoxicating. Oh, and there's the added bonus of two people helping you reach your peak at the same time, as well.
3. Add A Toy
It's pretty basic, but it has to be on the list. Thanks to the endless options of shapes, sizes, materials, and vibration settings, you and your partner could have a lot of fun finding a toy that works for the two of you. Maybe it's a classic vibrator, a couples' toy, or a double-ended vibrator. If you're looking for something you and a male partner can enjoy, start off with a ring. Not only will it add something extra to your typical missionary, your clitoris will get all the attention it deserves.
If you and your partner are secure with one another, and have a very strong sense of trust, swinging is definitely something to consider. Getting to experiment with another couple, and maybe turn your swinging session into a foursome, could help you try something (and someone) new. There's also the added bonus of being able to watch your partner do his or her thing (and that can be incredibly sexy). If you've ever been curious, and it's right for your relationship, you definitely should put this on your list.
5. The G-Spot Orgasm
The illustrious G-Spot. Although it has been somewhat contested whether it even exists, many will tell you that yes, it is definitely there, and that experiencing a G-spot orgasm is mind-blowing. It may take some mastering at first, but getting in touch with your G-spot could definitely transform your sex life. The best way to practice? Try good old doggy style, as featured in the picture above. It's the best position to hit the G-spot because your partner's penis is naturally angled downward, giving him easier access to it.
6. Sex Marathon
Ever just devote an entire day, and maybe the night, to having sex? During a sex marathon, you do just that, taking to the bed for hours on end, trying new positions, toys, lubes, you name it. Yes, this definitely could get exhausting (and I recommend you give yourself time to eat, and have a break, of course) but it could also be insanely fun.
7. Sex With Food
I don't know about you, but I've always wanted to try this one. Yes, I hear it can be a huge mess, but there is something really appealing about combining two of my favorite things. Now, I'm not talking about sex and pizza (although in a perfect world, that would somehow work out). There are special food products designed for people looking to get sexy with their favorite snack, like body chocolate or edible panties. Or you can just bust out the jar of Nutella and see where it goes from there. Whatever you're feeling.
8. Try A New Position
If you want to be truly daring, trying out sex positions that involve a little bit of stretching beforehand is something to add to the list. While challenging, mastering a bendy position with your partner could offer a new angle of stimulation, or deeper penetration for an earthquake of an orgasm. And when you two finally get it down, you'll earn some serious bragging rights. Try the seated back bend for a slower, more intimate movement, with a lot of clit action.
9. Try A Sexy Photoshoot
This is a new, growing trend that I hear a lot of couples truly enjoy. During a sexy photoshoot, a professional photographer takes pictures of the two of you in lingerie (or nude; I think it depends what you're feeling, and who the photographer is), getting a bit intimate. From what I know, you're not actually having sex while this is going on, but it's still a huge turn-on for foreplay. Something to spice things up before the act, with a little to look at later to help put you in the mood.
10. Mastering The Female Orgasm
There is definitely an art to helping members of the fairer sex get to our peak. While oral sex can help many women get there, it can be a little more tricky with penetrative sex. Hence this addition to the list. Take the time to experiment with positions that will get you there every time. Start experimenting more with on-top positions, which give you more control over speed and pace. Moves like the sideways straddle help put added pressure on your clit, ensuring a happy ending.
11. Make A Sex Tape
For those true exhibitionists, I hear making a sex tape can be incredible. Filming yourselves while you're getting down and dirty could be a lot of fun. You can try different angles for the camera, different positions, and if you're truly a budding Spielberg, different scripts. It's like your own porno, only you dictate what happens. And there is always the added bonus of watching it later, while doing it again.
12. Try Roleplay
Ever wanted to be someone else, just for the night? Well, roleplay is your answer. Concocting imaginative and sexy situations while channeling your inner actor definitely switches things up. And if you're really creative, you can even bring costumes and props into the mix. Roleplaying gives you the option to enact your favorite fantasy. And why not film it while you're at it?
13. Add Some Kink
From whipping out the handcuffs to exploring the full-on intricacies of BDSM, kink may be something you're curious about and want to try out. For those of you who are thinking about taking sex beyond the classics, it's important to speak with your partner about what the two of you want. But once you're both on the same page, go for it. You may just find something a little more tasty to add to your typical nightly routine.
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