20 Things Therapists Want You To Know About Insecurities In Relationships

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It's troublesome enough to feel insecure about yourself. Feeling insecure in a relationship can add to that discomfort. Turns out, however, a lot of people feel insecure in relationships — in one way or another. Therapists, though, have seen it all, and are ready to pass some wisdom on to you.

From the outside, it may be hard to believe that a lot of other people feel insecure — even if their relationship looks great from the outside. If you break it down, however, the psychology behind it makes sense. "Relationships bring out insecurities because they involve keeping another person in your life, and in some senses winning this person over on a regular basis," David Bennett, certified counselor and relationship expert, tells Bustle. "So, we can become highly attached to a person, and worried that we may not be 'good enough' to keep that person in our lives." All of the sudden, you may end up zooming in on your perceived flaws, and in the worst case, stop being able to see what's great about your relationship. But often, that might be all in your head.

One good thing is that the person you're with is indeed choosing to be with you. The second is that therapists and mental health professionals have explored the most common issues in relationships for decades. What they've learned doesn't always need to be picked up by attending therapy (though often that helps). Sometimes, little reminders can give you a bit of the boost you need to feel secure in yourself and your relationship.

Here are 20 things therapists want you to know about insecurities in relationships.