7 Signs Your Relationship Won't Last, Based On How You Spend Time Together

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Andrew Zaeh for Bustle

It's completely normal to wonder whether your relationship will last. And there are a lot of different indicators about what makes a strong relationship or a weak one, but we often overlook one of the most basic and obvious tells: how do you spend your time together?

Now, that's assuming you are spending time together. Because if you disagree on how much time you should be spending, that's a problem on its own. "If you find that you are constantly negotiating how often you want to be together, it’s not a great sign," relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, LCSW, tells Bustle. "It suggests that there’s a disparity in what you both want this relationship to be. One of you is likely to be pushing for something more serious and the other is likely wanting something very casual. Either option is fine, but the disparity can cause problems."

So let's assume that you're spending an amount of time together that both of you are comfortable with — so what do you have to look for? Well, there are a lot of different signs as to whether or not you'll make it in the long run. Here's what you have to look for, based on how you spend time together.

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