Sophia Benoit
Sophia Benoit is a writer and IBS sufferer who lives in Los Angeles. She has written about sex, relationships, and culture in GQ, The Cut, The Guardian, Allure, Refinery29, and her diary. Her book WELL, THIS IS EXHAUSTING is available now. Follow her on Twitter at @1followernodad for rants about Shrek and Fleetwood Mac.
It's A Pleasure
Should I Break Off My 4-Year Relationship For A Woman I Just Met?
You’re playing with fire.
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I'm 42 & I've Never Had Sex. Is It Too Late?
Take it one step at a time.
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Should I Be Friends With My Ex If I'm Still Not Over Them?
A post-relationship forced “friendship” can’t change the fact that you wanted different things.
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Help! My Partner Only Wants Sex Late At Night & Won’t Compromise
Work on ways to make sex more fulfilling for you within their parameters.
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Why Do My Relationships Always End At The Honeymoon Phase?
You can’t make a good relationship with a bad partner. Ever.
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I Love My Partner But I’m Not Sure I See A Future With Them. Should I Stay?
Don’t be afraid to quit things.
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Help! I Want To Sleep Around More But I'm Anxious About Having Sex.
If you want a Samantha Jones life, you can have it.
Divorce On Main
How Divorce Became Chic
Once a scarlet letter, pop culture has actually started to romanticize life after the end of a marriage.
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Help! I Don’t Feel Desirable Anymore — Is My Sex Life Doomed?
Consider this a great opportunity.
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I Want To Start Dating Again But I'm In A Funk. How Can I Get Out Of It?
It’s all about baby steps.
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Do People Generally Prefer Longer Sex?
If there’s one thing humans love to do, it’s compare ourselves to others sexually.
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I Have A Huge Crush On A Jerk & I Can’t Get Past It
Crushes are made of small moments that we read way too much into.
Puff Puff Pass
Shotgunning Smoke, So Hot Right Now
From 'And Just Like That' to 'The Worst Person in the World,' is this the latest form of forbidden flirtation?
Real Talk
The Most Common Mistakes People Make in Their Sex Lives
Observations from Bustle's sex advice columnist.
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How Can I Hint To My Partner I Want To Spice It Up In Bed?
This is not the time for sublety.
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I've Only Had One Long-Term Relationship. Am I Missing Out?
This problem is as old as time.
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How Do I Tell My Partner That I Want To Try New Things In Bed?
It's totally fair to feel like things have plateaued after a while with one person.
Books
The Divine Honesty Of Heather Havrilesky
Havrilesky’s brutally truthful memoir has split critics into two camps: those who get it, and those who don’t.
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So, How Hot Should My Dating App Photos Actually Be?
It’s not your job to manage anyone’s expectations.
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Um, How Do I Explain Purity Culture To My Partner?
Think about which beliefs you’re trying to challenge, and which you now easily reject.
