This is The Firsts

This is the time to try new things: take risks, make a new city home, make friends family, define your personal style. Together with Abercrombie & Fitch, Bustle is giving you all of the real-life inspo you need to get started on your year of firsts.

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How 5 Bustle Editors Are Wearing Fall's Varsity Trend

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The Firsts: Getting a Dog

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What it Takes to Release an EP

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How to Outfit Your Next 3-Day Weekend

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The Firsts: Traveling Abroad

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The Firsts: Breaking A Norm

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How 5 Bustle Editors Are Wearing Vintage-Inspired Denim

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Which Adventure Should You & Your Friends Experience Next?

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The Firsts: Facing A Fear

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13 Inspirational Quotes To Help You Get Through Your First Breakup

When it comes to relationships, many people find that getting over the first breakup is a special kind of awful. For some reason the end of our first relationship, even if it was a total trainwreck that we knew wasn't right, has a way of devastating…
By Lea Rose Emery

11 Playlists To Listen To After You Say "I Love You" To Your Partner For The First Time

For many people, saying "I love you" for the first time is a huge relationship milestone. Saying it might be something that comes easy to you or it might be something you struggle with, but either way, it's always significant. It doesn't have to…
By Lea Rose Emery

8 Important Discussions To Have With Your Partner Before You Move In Together

After you've been with your partner long enough, moving in together just feels like the natural next step — especially in a society where living together unmarried is more common than jumping straight into marriage. No matter how many partners…
By Amanda Chatel
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How 5 Bustle Editors Are Wearing Fall's Varsity Trend

We may *technically* grow out of back-to-school style, but that same mentality sneaks up every fall as we look to refresh our new seasonal wardrobes. From racing-striped joggers to track jackets and rugby shirts, reinventing that classic school…
By Elly Ayres

9 First Date Tips For When You're Going Out With Someone You've Never Met Before

When you're going on a date with someone you've never met before — whether that's someone you met on a dating app, a friend of a friend, or a totally blind date — it's normal to be a little nervous and worry that things won't go well. After all,…
By Laken Howard

7 Things To Look For When You're Trying To Find Roommates For The First Time

One of the biggest transitions into adult life is moving in with your first roommates. It can be incredibly freeing and make you see yourself as an actual, real-life grownup — but it's also tricky to get it right. And finding the right roommate is…
By Lea Rose Emery

7 Easy-To-Miss Perks Of Being Newly Single

Newly single? Maybe you're thrilled to get back out there and date again, maybe you're overwhelmed by the big change, or maybe you're totally dreading being single again and still mourning your breakup. As someone who's back to being newly single, I…
By Amanda Chatel

9 Questions To Ask Someone On A First Date If You've Never Met Them Before

If you're someone who tends to get nervous on first dates, imagining how well — or not well — the conversation with your date might go can be a major source of pre-date stress. The good news? As long as you have an idea of some questions to ask on a…
By Laken Howard
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How 5 Bustle Editors Are Wearing Vintage-Inspired Denim

There's something about retro-inspired looks that make them considerably dreamier than their modern-day counterparts. And this summer, vintage-inspired denim is definitely back with worn-in washes, distressed details, and swoon-worthy throwback cuts…
By Elly Ayres

13 Women Share The First Milestone That Made Them Feel Like An Adult

What makes someone an adult? Many of us, as we move into adulthood, look for one definite moment or milestone or marker that we have finally reached ~adult status~. But it's rarely that simple. The road to becoming an adult isn't necessarily be…
By Lea Rose Emery

7 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before You Move To A New City

Sometimes, you know you’re ready for a change of scenery, but you may not know exactly what that change looks like. There are so many cities in the world, you can’t possibly live in all the ones you’d like to. So, how do you decide what the perfect…
By Suzannah Weiss

16 Women Reveal The First Time They Truly Felt Successful At Work

What does it take to be successful at work? It depends on so many factors, including what you want out of your career. When you're in your 20s, you might still be playing around and experimenting with various career paths and trying to find one that…
By Lea Rose Emery

9 Summer First Date Ideas That Actually Help You Get To Know Your Date

There's something undeniably sexy about dating during the summertime: thanks to the sunshine, you don't have to hole up in your apartment, order takeout, and watch TV — instead, it seems like the whole world is your oyster. Having more daylight…
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9 Women Share What Moving In With A Significant Other For The First Time Is Actually Like

The longer you date someone, the more likely the topic of living together will come up one day. After all, you two have discussed being together forever, so why not start “forever” now? Or maybe you think living together will be a good test before…
By Natalia Lusinski
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How 5 Bustle Editors Are One-Piece Dressing This Summer

Summer in New York City is full of possibilities, so it only makes sense that your closet should hold the same promises. After all, an adventure-packed weekend could take you from the pebbly shores of Brooklyn Bridge Park to the heights of your…
By Elly Ayres

12 Tips For Your First Long-Distance Relationship

At some point, you may find yourself in a long-distance relationship (LDR). Of course, this can happen in many ways: you meet someone while you’re out of town, you meet someone in town, but then one of you moves away for something like school or a…
By Natalia Lusinski

30 Women Tell Us Their Very First Screen Name

Isn't it nuts how far technology has come in the past decade? Ten years ago, my parents had just granted me access to AOL Instant Messenger, and crafting a profile along with my very first screen name was one of the greatest thrills I'd ever…
By Iman Hariri-Kia

18 People Share The Exact Moment They First Felt Like An Adult

What was the defining moment that made you feel like you were finally an adult? I can't quite put my finger on mine — maybe it was the first real paycheck I received, or the first time I treated my parents to dinner, or even the first vacation I…
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7 Things To Know Before Asking For A Raise For The First Time

A lot of us don't even know where to start when it comes to asking for a raise. A 2016 survey from Levo, an online community for career advice and more, found that over than 60 percent of millennial women weren't sure how to ask for a raise — and 63…
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12 Women Share The First-Date Idea They Swear By

When it comes to first-date ideas, sure, you can meet somebody for drinks or dinner, but with all the other options out there, you may choose to do something else. After all, you may be nervous, and doing an activity-centric date may make you more…
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8 Women Reveal The First Risk They Took That Changed The Course Of Their Lives

When was the last time you took a chance in life? I'm not talking about drinking your coffee black and skipping out on sugar. (Although, that is a bold move.) I'm talking about taking a chance on yourself, and following your wildest dreams. Right…
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7 Things You Only Understand About Your Parents Once You Move Out

Moving out of your parent's house truly makes you feel like an adult. You're on your own, and writing out rent checks every month. On Sunday mornings, you'll go to the grocery store and make sure your fridge is stocked with fresh food for the week.…
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8 Things To Consider When You're Looking For An Apartment For The First Time

Apartment, sweet apartment. You're at a point in your life where you're starting to look for a place to call your own. After all those years of living in a dorm room and sleeping in a twin-size bed, you're more than ready to move out. You've been…
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7 Things To Expect When You're Sharing A Room For The First Time In College

College comes with a lot of firsts for many of us. It might be the first time you're living away from your parents, the first time you're given a lot of responsibility, and the first time you're taking the reins on your daily schedule. Among these…
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6 Things You Figure Out On Your First Road Trip That Turn Into Life Lessons

When I moved to California three years ago, I made the journey via car. Going on a cross-country trip was a bucket list item I always wanted to check off, so I decided to make that dream a reality. I started in Florida and made my way west. Along…
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7 Traditions To Start With Your First College Roomie, So That You're Bonded Forever

College is right around the corner. You've had a countdown going on your phone since graduation, and can't stop daydreaming about living your best life on campus. You'll make lots of new friends, and scope out the best coffee shops. Not to mention,…
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7 Ways To Enjoy Being By Yourself, If You're Living Alone For The First Time

So, here's the situation: You just got a new apartment, or maybe a cute loft in Los Angeles. (Any New Girl fans out there?) It was a dream to finally move out, and you're as excited as ever. Also, you're living alone. That's right, for the first…
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The 7 Stages Of Living In Another Country For The First Time

Living in a different part of the world is quite possibly the most enriching thing you'll experience in your lifetime. Yes, hopping on planes and continuously traveling around the globe always seems like a dream, but in my opinion, the adventure…
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8 Easy Ways To Save Money, If You're Sticking To A Budget For The First Time

Being an "adult" means having and sticking to a budget. Right now, you may not have the funds for everything you want to do, and that's totally OK. You're probably working and have an idea of where you want to be. There are some easy ways to save…
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Why You Never Forget Your First Summer Break With Your College Besties

Best friends forever starts with a summer full of making memories. Up until now, you've always had the sweetest months in the sun with your friends from home. You all grew up going to summer camp together, where you'd spend afternoons by the lake.…
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What My First Solo Beach Getaway Taught Me About Relaxing That Nothing Else Could

Sometimes, it's OK to take on life solo. Summer is meant to be a time for you to get recharged, and reconnect with yourself a bit. Let's be honest, during the day, when you're staring at your screen and updating your planner, you may not feel so…
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7 Things You Overthink When You Start Making Your Own Appointments For The First Time

When you were younger, a visit to the doctor's office likely meant one of your parents made the appointment, brought you there, and checked you in. Now that you're a grown-up, you're no longer sitting on the colorful pediatrician's table awaiting…
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8 Things To Consider When You're Looking For Your First "Adult" Job

Get your inner #girlboss on, because you're ready to make your passion your paycheck. All of those long hours studying in the library are finally over, and you've put a bit more focus on that side hustle this summer, but you're still wondering…
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7 Traditions To Start With Your Hometown Friends The Summer Before College

High school is officially over, which means you're living your best life with your friends from home before heading off to college. Maybe you and your bestie are lucky enough to be roommates for freshmen year, or you could be going off to totally…
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How To Make The Most Of Your Summer, If You've Landed Your First Job

The season of campfires, s'mores, and getting sun-kissed is here. You've pulled out your bikinis, and planned a few weekend trips with your besties. Wearing sundresses to work is your go-to, and you're slipping on some sandals between meetings, too.…
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7 Sweet Traditions To Start When You & Your S.O. Get A Pet Together

The only thing better than lounging on the couch with bae is having a little fur baby nestled on your lap with you. In general, sharing a pet with your S.O. comes with major responsibilities, but you two will genuinely grow so much closer. There are…
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How To Stay Close To Your Sibling In Your 20s, If You're The First One To Move Out

Your 20s can be quite the whirlwind. You may go to college, or do a lot of traveling. You'll likely fall in and out of love, and make lots of new friends along the way. Moving out is always a milestone, and comes with a bunch of emotions, mostly…
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6 Amazing Things You'll Experience The First Time You Travel Abroad

Bon voyage! You're hopping on a plane and finally getting a new stamp in your passport. You packed your suitcase using all of the tips you could find on Pinterest, and even have some outfits planned so you can take the dreamiest pictures while…
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Why Seeing Your HS Besties For The First Time After College Is Never What You Think

With a few semesters of college under your belt, high school probably feels like it was ages ago. You've lived in a dorm room, turned roommates into besties, and figured out how to navigate your campus. Finals weren't always a breeze, but you made…
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8 Things To Remember The First Time You Do Hot Yoga

I used to pride myself on my ability to complete the most challenging of workouts without ever breaking a sweat — that is, until I tried hot yoga. Listen to me when I say this: There's absolutely no way any human being with a pulse can exit that…
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9 Things I Learned About Love During My First Adult Relationship

Love is bittersweet. Some of us have experienced passion that we'll forever try to put into words, and breakups that were so heartbreaking. What I learned about love during my first adult relationship is that it's so much more than those crushes…
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8 Morning Struggles You Only Understand Once You Have Your First Job

Landing your first job can be so exciting. After college, you want to make your passion your paycheck, and tend to put a lot of focus on finding a position that's the perfect fit. You've spent the past four years or so working towards that degree,…
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8 Things You Need To Be Prepared For When Starting A Workout Routine For The First Time

Starting a workout routine can be daunting if you've never really had one before. Even if you feel really inspired when you first start out, it can be a little nerve-wracking if you just plain don't know what to expect from your fitness journey.…
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11 Accessories To Get For Your Workout If You’re A First-Timer Who Needs Motivation

When you jump into a workout routine for the very first time, it can be hard, sure, but it's also really fun and inspiring. You can literally feel yourself getting stronger and stronger as the weeks pass, and it's exhilarating to find new ways to…
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7 Things You Really Should Consider The First Time You Make A Budget

Adulting is hard. And between balancing your checkbook and making sure the rent check for your apartment goes out on time, you're realizing that the real world is — well, "real." Coming out of college, you heard all about how you were totally in…
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7 Women On The One Thing That Finally Made Them Feel Like An Adult After College

How does one "adult?" From the minute second semester hits senior year and they hand you your diploma at graduation, you're wondering just what the real world is going to be like. You started applying for jobs and scoping out cute apartments with…
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7 Reasons Why Your Work Wife Will Totally Save You During Your First Job

As much as it's an extremely exciting time in your life, your first job can be a pretty nerve-racking experience. Yeah, you nailed the interview like the girl boss you are, but everything about this work culture is totally new to you. But then,…
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8 Important Self-Care Tips To Never Forget During Your First Job

You landed your first job! Oh boy, college was a whole lot of stress, but once you really hit the "real world," you realized it's not all so bad. All of those late nights on the train coming back from your internship were so worth it, and now your…
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7 Ways To Make Your First Apartment Without Roommates Feel Like Home Sweet Home

When you first ventured out on your own, you probably shared an apartment or house with a few roommates. So, when it's time for you to have your own place and live solo, it's a different ball game. Yeah, you always provided for yourself — even with…
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7 Things You Should Know The First Time You Get A Credit Card

Swiping is one thing this generation has become accustomed to — but not all swiping is as simple as going left or right. Swiping a credit card comes with major responsibilities, which is why you should educate yourself on what they're for, and most…
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8 Essential Things To Know Before Welcoming A Pet Into Your Adult Life

Always show up to life prepared, especially if you're getting a pet. This motto really is so tried and true. Think about all of those tests you took where you brought an extra pencil, just in case. Your classmate probably ended up needing it, and…
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7 Women Reveal How They Coped Their First Time Living Away From Their Mom

The most difficult part about leaving the nest doesn't always have anything to do with being thrown into society and combating the ups and downs of adulting. It may generally revolve around the fact that you're leaving mama bear for the first time,…
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7 Women Share How They Survived Their First Friendship Breakup

There's a lesson to be learned from every breakup. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, and that the universe knows what it's doing when people come and go from our lives. Breaking up with a friend, especially one you've had for…
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9 Things I Wish I Knew The First Time I Was A Bridesmaid

Being a bridesmaid is the ultimate honor. Your friend is asking you to stand by her side on one of the biggest day of her entire life. It's pretty much like she's The Bachelorette and is handing you a beautiful rose at the rose ceremony. You get all…
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