Every Up & Down In Ashley & Jared's Bachelor Romance

From Bachelor in Paradise to starting a family.

'Bachelor' couple Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon
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Bachelor Nation's Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon spent three years dating on and off before tying the knot in the summer of 2019. But it wasn't until May 2018 that the two revealed they were officially dating.

Throughout the pair's time on The Bachelor franchise, it seemed like Ashley was chasing after someone who wasn't interested in anything beyond a friendship. But an episode of Ashley's KineticTV show, The Story of Us shared the real story behind their complicated will they, won't they romance. As Jared says in the video, "It's so hard to really decipher between our romantic feelings for each other and our friendship feelings for each other because we've been so close for so long that we really were — and still are — best friends."

After years of mixed signals, Jared eventually took the plunge and revealed his true feelings for Ashley, and they finally got together. Since then, the couple has gone through plenty of relationship milestones, including their June 2018 engagement, getting a dog, their August 2019 wedding, and now planning to start a family. Here's a look back at how it all played out — and what they've been up to more recently.

Spring 2015: Ashley Sees Jared On Kaitlyn Bristowe's Season

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As a contestant on Chris Soules' Bachelor season, Ashley became part of Bachelor Nation before Jared. He joined immediately afterward, appearing on Kaitlyn Bristowe's season of The Bachelorette.

Ashley said in The Story of Us that she was attracted to Jared when she saw him on The Bachelorette. She even attended a live taping of one of the episodes and asked the producers about him.

June 2015: They Meet On 'Bachelor In Paradise' Season 2

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Ashley and Jared officially met when they competed on Bachelor in Paradise Season 2. "I remember walking down the steps in Paradise and seeing him at the bar and it was the weirdest feeling. I was just so gravitated and drawn to him. It was truly love at first sight," Ashley said in The Story of Us video.

Ashley pursued Jared throughout that season, but the feelings weren't mutual. After choosing not to have sex in the Fantasy Suite, Jared ended things with Ashley and they both left Paradise single.

October 2015: Jared Regains Interest At A Charity Event

After Bachelor In Paradise, the two continued hanging out, with Jared occasionally being interested in Ashley. He discussed how he was attracted to Ashley when she hosted a charity event at her parents' house in October 2015. Later that night, they danced on the bar and Ashley posted the video evidence on Instagram. Jared admitted in The Story of Us, "I wanted you that night."

Winter 2015-2016: It's Complicated

In between their appearances on Bachelor in Paradise Seasons 2 and 3, things became more complicated between Jared and Ashley. In The Story of Us, they reminisce about making out in Boston toward the end of 2015 and going on their first official date to see Deadpool in early 2016. But Jared put an end to romantic things because he was in a "confused place."

June 2016: Ashley Continues To Pine For Jared On 'BiP' Season 3

Because of all the back-and-forth, Ashley was still emotional about Jared when they both appeared on Bachelor in Paradise Season 3. She cried when he started seeing Caila and tried to move on with Wells, but neither Jared nor Ashley's BiP Season 3 relationships lasted.

Most Of 2017: Just Friends

Ashley said that she decided to move on from Jared around March 2017, but they remained friends and Ashley often posted Instagram photos of them hanging out.

December 2017: Ashley Goes On Winter Games & Starts Dating Kevin

During Bachelor: Winter Games, which aired in February 2018, it seemed like Ashley had finally found happiness with Canadian contestant Kevin Wendt. While Ashley was busy in the snow, Jared did Bachelor In Paradise: Australia. He said in The Story of Us that he chose to do Paradise: Australia after Ashley decided to do Winter Games, implying he was growing to care for her romantically again.

January 2018: Jared Admits He Has Feelings For Ashley

Based on their social media accounts, Jared and Ashley have made it a tradition to go to St. Lucia with their Bachelor friends Jade and Tanner Tolbert. In 2018, they didn't post any photos of one another on their annual trip and that might be because they were (again) in a complicated place.

Jared admitted in The Story of Us that it was at this point — after Ashley was dating someone else — that he realized how much he cared about her. Despite the fact that she had a boyfriend, he decided to tell Ashley how he felt and even kissed her at the airport when they were leaving at the prompting of Tanner and Jade.

March 2018: Ashley & Kevin Break Up

Though Ashley was moved by Jared's admission of feelings, she continued to date Kevin. But by March, the two had called it quits. In The Story of Us, Ashley said, "I did not cheat on Kevin. I ended the relationship because it had run its course. And then, Jared was still there." Jared then made some grand gestures to prove his feelings for Ashley.

May 2018: Ashley & Jared Announce They're A Couple

Two months after Ashley's relationship with Kevin ended and nearly three years after Jared and Ashley met, they announced that they were dating. Kevin even congratulated the pair on Instagram.

June 2018: Jared Proposes

After becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, Jared wasted no time committing the rest of his life to Ashley when he proposed to her on the beach in Mexico where they had met years earlier. The world got to see the moment a few months later in September when it aired as a part of Bachelor in Paradise Season 5.

September 2018: Their Parents Meet

Ashley and Jared made the bold decision to have their parents meet while stuck together on a family cruise.

November 2018: They Adopt A Dog Together

Jared and Ashley adopted a pup, who they named Lois Lane. (Jared's family dog is named Clark Kent.) Lois has a sibling in the form of Ashley's dog — and Jared's "son through marriage" — Gurgi.

February 2019: They Write A Children's Book

The couple joined creative forces to write a children's book called Lucy & Clark: A Story of Puppy Love, which follows the adventures of Clark and Ashley's first dog, who died. A percent of proceeds went to support no-kill animal shelters.

March 2019: Celebrating Their One-Year Anniversary

They may have announced they were dating in May 2018, but the two really got together in March, which Ashley commemorated with an Instagram post.

May 2019: They Premiere Their YouTube Show What Now?

For Ashley's second KineticTV show, she and Jared enlisted the help of their Bach Nation friends Nick Viall and Jade and Tanner Tolbert. The first episode documented Jared moving in with Ashley and her sister Lauren, another Bachelor alum who has since moved out.

August 2019: Their Wedding

The couple tied the knot in an elegant ceremony in Jared's home state of Rhode Island with a ton of Bachelor alums in attendance. They then honeymooned in Italy and Greece.

February 2020: Thinking About A Family

Through her partnership with Modern Fertility, Ashley announced that she and Jared plan to start trying to have children in 2020. This confirms what she told HollywoodLife in December 2019, when she said they wanted to start a family "sooner rather than later" and already have a baby name picked out.

June 2020: Getting Creative In Quarantine

The couple quarantined with Ashley's parents in Virginia, where they spent most of their free time making TikToks for their shared account and recreating scenes from movies like The Wolf of Wall Street (above), Rock of Ages, Hairspray, and How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days.

After 13 weeks, Ashley praised her husband for surviving that much time with his in-laws. “I think he deserves a round of applause for getting out of it sane!” she captioned an Instagram post. “Honestly, we’re not even itching to leave, but we’re also looking forward to living just as a couple again.”

July 2020: Recreating A First Date

One of Ashley and Jared’s first dates was inspired by La La Land. They went to Griffith Park in Los Angeles, and Ashley even wore a yellow dress. “Fast forward to today, we went back to the same spot for the first [time] since being husband and wife,” Jared wrote on Instagram. “Ashley still wore the same yellow dress.”

August 2020: Celebrating One Year Of Marriage

In honor of their first anniversary, Ashley shared a gallery of photos from their special day while Jared posted their wedding video.

September 2020: Trying For A Family And (Maybe) Moving

Ashley announced that she stopped taking birth control in an ad for the Natural Cycles app, which means she and Jared are likely planning to expand their family. Later that month, the two vacationed around New England and mentioned the possibility of moving back to the East Coast. (Jared is from Rhode Island.)

November 2020: Ashley Gives A Fertility Update

For her partnership with Modern Fertility, Ashley shared that she took a test to determine the number of eggs she had. Her doctor told her not to wait more than a year before trying for her first baby, especially because she and Jared want multiple children.

December 2020: They Rewatch Their First Kiss

Thanks to Ashley and Jared's time on Bachelor in Paradise, their first kiss was caught on camera. They decided to take a walk down memory lane and rewatch that footage, sharing a reaction video on Dec. 16. For Jared, it was his first time viewing the scene since the show aired in 2015, while Ashley hadn't seen it in "a few years." Both were left adorably embarrassed, and Ashley noted on Instagram that she "will never get over" two "cringe-y" elements she brought to their momentous smooch. Although they also spent December sharing cute holiday photos, this was the ultimate gift.

Perhaps the next big update will be a pregnancy announcement!

Additional reporting by Rebecca Patton and Kayla Blanton.