How To Deal With Your Best Friend's Partner That You Don't Like, According To Experts


Nothing makes me happier than when my best friend is living her best life: whether that means finding success at her job, striking a happy chord with her health, or falling madly in love with a new partner. Seeing her smile automatically makes me smile too. So when my best friend started dating someone I didn't think was good enough for her, I had to learn how to cope with a BFF's partner I didn't like real quick.

One summer, after a series of fights, I grew concerned that my BFF'S significant other was taking their insecurities out on her. They broke up briefly, but immediately got back together, seemingly more in love than ever. I didn't want to say anything that might seem unsupportive of her decisions, but I still had my reservations. I had to face the fact that if I wanted her in my life, I'd have to learn to deal with him too.

"No matter what, you need to honor the fact that your friend is an adult," psychotherapist and relationship expert Dr. Gary Brown tells Bustle. "They get to decide who they want in their life."

Here's what else you'll want to keep in mind if you find yourself in a similiar situation: