What Do You Do If You've Cheated? 7 Steps To Take, According To Experts

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If you've cheated, it was probably not on your agenda when you got into a relationship. But somewhere along the way, it happened. Maybe you felt the opportunity was too good to pass up, or maybe you craved the adventure. But what do you do once you've cheated? What can be even worse than cheating is practicing bad etiquette after you cheat by either perpetuating the affair or making your partner suffer for your mistakes.

Sometimes, infidelity points toward underlying relationship issues, so identifying these problems and tackling them can both help something good come out of the cheating and help you avoid cheating again, Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish tells Bustle. "If the person cheated only one time and demonstrates genuine remorse, regret, empathy, and apologizes... solemnly promising to never ever cheat again, a 'sex pass' can be allowed and the breach of trust can be repaired with two willing partners. [I have] seen a positive turnaround occur when the cheater demonstrates genuine remorse for hurting [their partner] and immerses [themselves] into psychotherapy treatment in a completely committed fashion."

If you've cheated on your partner, all hope is not lost. Here are some ways to repair the relationship and learn from the experience, according to experts.