There have been many steamy,
iconic sex scenes in films, and much of the time there's been a lot of emphasis on the female body. What there has historically been less emphasis on in these movies, however, is the female viewpoint. It turns out that most of the intensely erotic films that society has remembered and celebrated over the years have been written and directed by men. I guess I shouldn't be surprised; in general, most of all movies have been written and directed by men. But that doesn't mean that there aren't tons of sexy movies made by women out there.
It was definitely a shock to confront how many of my favorite erotic scenes comes from films that were directed by men:
Blue is the Warmest Color, Nymphomaniac, Y Tu Mamá También, Wetlands, 9 1/2 Weeks. When it comes to hunting down super hot movies directed by women, you'll find that many of these filmmakers are queer, which is definitely worth noting, as well as that when the plot is about two women romantically involved, it's much less likely that a man will be writing or directing. Another interesting thing that stands out is how many of the movies on this list were both written and directed by the same women. It seems that many of the women who get their films made are crafting and guiding the story on multiple levels, and have complete ownership of it.
I can only hope that more and more women will get the chance to bring their stories to the big screen, and that they'll bring along great sex scenes and sensual aesthetics like the ones in the movies below.
Stream Take This Waltz on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Sarah Polley
Michelle Williams' character has a steamy affair with an artist from her neighborhood and ultimately changes everything about her life in this 2012 film, which contains a pretty revelatory 360-sex scene.
Stream High Art on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Lisa Cholodenko
Ally Sheedy and Radha Mitchell's characters — a photographer and assistant editor who prioritize their careers above all else — embark on an affair in this sexy 1998 indie film from Lisa Cholodenko, who directed
The Kids Are All Right. Stream Love And Basketball on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Gina Prince-Bythewood
There are few things sexier than the tension that builds during a heated athletic matchup. In
Love and Basketball, the classic romance starring Omar Epps and Sanaa Lathan, director Gina Price-Bythewood successfully frames a great romantic storyline around the characters' love for working up a sweat. Stream Bound on Amazon.
Directors and Screenwriters: Lana and Lily Wachowski
Lana and Lily Wachowski directed the ultra sexy crime drama
Bound, about a lesbian con-turned-plumber who sparks a romance with the girlfriend of a Mafia member. The film stars Gina Gershon and Jennifer Tilly, and contains some super hot sex scenes that I watched as a preteen and will never ever forget. Thank you, Lana and Lily. Stream Jennifer's Body on Amazon.
Director: Karyn Kusama
Screenwriter: Diablo Cody
If you like your sexy movies with a major dose of horror,
Jennifer's Body is for you. The sexual tension between Jennifer and Needy is palpable, with Megan Fox and Amanda Seyfried both bringing out amazing and incredibly unique types of hotness in their characters.
'The Kids Are All Right'
Stream The Kids Are All Right on Amazon.
Director and Co-Screenwriter: Lisa Chodolenko (with Stuart Blumberg)
The Kids Are All Right is revelatory for the way it frankly portrays the complexities of long-term relationships and the spectrum of sexuality, all while delivering some realistic and very hot sex scenes. Please note that this is the same director who released the above selection, High Art. Stream Better Than Chocolate on Amazon.
Director: Anne Wheeler
This Canadian romantic comedy follows a woman, Maggie, who has recently struck up a relationship with another woman named Kim. When her mother and brother are forced to move into her apartment with her, she feels the need to hide her relationship. This movie features a chocolate body painting scene between the lovers, so, you know, enough said.
Purchase on Amazon.
Director: Katt Shea
Co-screenwriters: Melissa Godard and Katt Shea (with Andy Ruben)
A very young (17 years old, in fact) Drew Barrymore stars alongside Sara Gilbert in this sexy dramatic thriller. When private school girl Sylvie, played by Barrymore, strikes up a relationship with Ivy, played by Gilbert, her entire world spirals into chaos. It's hard to find online, but
worth the hunt and the watch. Poison Ivy is a cult classic Stream The Piano on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Jane Campion
A mute piano teacher who is married to a man she does not love embarks on a passionate affair in this movie that won three Oscars in 1983, including a Best Actress award for star Holly Hunter. It's a movie that's steamy, heart-wrenching, and beautiful.
Stream Sleeping Beauty on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Julia Leigh
This is a gorgeous, erotic film loosely inspired by the classic story of Sleeping Beauty. Emily Browning stars as a university student who experiences a sexual awakening when she is initiated as a "Sleeping Beauty," a role for which she is sedated and presented in absolute submission to her clients.
Stream Marie Antoinette on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Sofia Coppola
Kirsten Dunst stars as the titular queen, who parties hard and has an affair while her royal husband remains disinterested. It's a pastel, playful, and passionate retelling of the story the long villainized Queen of France, and it's incredibly sexy to boot.
Stream Strange Days on Amazon.
Director: Kathryn Bigelow
This sci-fi thriller is based around the premise that in the future, people can record all their experiences using an illegal device built into their eyes. That means there's a lot of people making bank off of selling their very vivid sexual experiences.
Stream Carol on Amazon.
Screenwriter: Phyllis Nagy
Though directed by Todd Haynes,
Carol, the gorgeous and touching romance between two women in the 1950s, was written by acclaimed playwright Phyllis Nagy. The film's most significant love scene is incredibly sexy and also beautifully shot.
'Something's Gotta Give'
Stream Something's Gotta Give on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Nancy Meyers
Anyone with ageist views about who is allowed to be sexy and have erotic relationships should consult this romantic comedy, which stars Diane Keaton as a woman who has incredibly sexy relationships with two characters played by Keanu Reeves and Jack Nicholson.
'Kama Sutra: A Tale Of Love'
Stream Kama Sutra: A Tale Of Love on Amazon.
Director and Screenwriter: Mira Nair
You know by the name that it's going to be pretty sexy. This film tells the story of two young women, a princess and a servant, who go through tumultuous lives full of romantic betrayal.
'Diary of a Nymphomaniac'
Stream Diary of a Nymphomanic on Amazon.
Screenwriter: Cuca Canals
Though directed by a man, Christian Molina,
Diary of A Nymphomaniac, which lives up to its sex-centric name, was written by Cuca Canals. Stream Chloe on Amazon.
Screenwriter: Erin Cressida Wilson
Directed by Atom Egoyan but written by Erin Cressida Wilson,
Chloe is an erotic thriller starring the impossibly attractive cast of Amanda Seyfried, Liam Neeson, and Julianne Moore.
All these movies help show that the only thing better than a hot sex scene is a hot sex scene written or directed by someone other than a dude.